how do you REALLY know when you have fallen out of love?

LegacyUser

hi, am 38, have been with a man for six years and we have a four year old daughter who is the light of our lives.we lived together for about a year or so but the commute to my job/elderly parents was too much so i got a place near them/work, have my liitle one starting school now in sept. i meet up with my partner a few times a week, sometimes he stays over, and we always meet on sundays when we do the family outing thing if you know what i mean..and she loves it.
anyway, i havent had sex with him since november(yeah i know) and its totally my doing..little things just started to niggle me over the last year or so and me wanting a quiet life said very little until it now has become an issue for me and i feel i just dont fancy him anymore.he is a lovely man in lots of ways, we never argue and he is a great dad now, though was a lazy ****e until i moved out!
its just that he is mean with money -, i never noticed until my friends pointed it out and now my radar is on and i see it all the time, and its true.
other little things too that sound stupid when i typed them so i deleted them..i really really like him, and like our sundays etc but now he is going mental cos of the lack of intimacy thing-even hugging or kissing which i dont want to do with him(but have thought about it with a random guy on the train tbh) --is this a phase? or have i fallen out of love..how do you KNOW? because its a hard call but if i have i must do the right thing, not keep him dangling and let him go..even though i may be alone ..help

LegacyUser

well healthy lust is part of being in love..if its gone, not sure if it can come back really..but some people do just change the nature of the relationship?

blogga

You know definitively when you post the question on an internet forum and invite strangers to tell you what you already know.