Can this be real???

LegacyUser

Met a guy, wasn't really looking for anyone. 1 medium and 2 LTR's in the past and most recent one had ended just over a year previous to that. Had been a bad toxic relationship, took me a while to build up the courage to leave and a long time after to get my confidence back. Needless to say I wasn't really interested in getting into anything again. I had dated a few guys but I didn't want to take anything any further.

Then on a a girls night out a friend met someone she knew, she had a group of friends with her who we were in turn introduced to. I have to say from the first time I laid eyes on this guy he bowled me over... never happened before. I was the type of person who was sceptical that love even existed, let alone love at first sight. From that night on we've spent time together everyday. 9 months later we are living together. I'va had a car accident and a parent die in that time and he was just a rock. He is so loving and caring.

He is perfect for me in everyway, our relationship is fantastic. I've always kind of lost the passion in the bedroom dept with guys after a month or two but I actually find myself thinking about it and looking forward to it with him. We've talked about our future, when we'd like to have kids and its so strange that we are comfortable discussing it so early(first time was probably after 3-4months). I never would have talked about these things with bf's before, wasn't even sure that I wanted marriage, kids n stuff but now I'm certain, and I know he would be a brilliant husband and father.

Ok I know you're probably thinking what is the issue?

My damn paranoia, it's not there all the time but there are times when I just can't help thinking this is way too good to be true, the bubble has to burst. He left for work earlier than me this morning and I was lying there thinking I just can't be this lucky. Good things don't happen to me, and tbh I don't know any couple who have had things go so good, they all seem to have their problems.

So I supposed I want to know, does anyone actually have the fairytale relationship? Do they exist?

PK2008

Fairytale relationships- do NOT exist and in my experience people who believe in them are in for a lifetime of disappointment

However its sounds like you do have a very good real relationship- just go with it, enjoy it and stop analysing it but remember that real relationships have nothing to do with fairytales- you have to work to make it work

Elessar

You're still in the honeymoon period of the relationship. Just wait until 20 years from now when you cant stand the sight of each other

In my experience, if it's too good to be true, it usually is. That said, there will be ups and downs in your relationship (like anyone else's) and the honeymoon period wont last forever. Just enjoy what you have.

AARRRGH

Just go with the flow and don't let your insecurities sabotage your happiness.

LegacyUser

Do you know how many people would love to be in your situation? Just enjoy what you have and dont over analyse it.

Novella

Even if it is too good to be true, you have it now and you should just enjoy it. No one can live in the future 'cause none of us know what's going to happen. A couple who are really unhappy today could end up sorting things out and getting married next year. You and your OH could have a huge fight and break up. No one knows so don't think about it. You have something amazing, you're lucky so don't ruin it by wasting this beautiful time worrying it will end.

VaioCruiser

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So I supposed I want to know, does anyone actually have the fairytale relationship? Do they exist?

Yes they do OP. I have seen them and they do exist.

But you need to stop obsessing with the future. You need to start living life for the way it is now. Living today for the wonderful day it is and the fact that he will walk in the door each evening at the end of the day and you will be happy.

No life is without hitches, as you found out already. If we live too much in the future, wishing and worrying, then we will find out that we have wasted our best times. instead of embracing them with enthusiasm and delight.

Live today.

All the best

Soul Stretcher

Can't improve on what Novella and VaioCruiser said... ++++++++1