im moving away to college.. she's not..

LegacyUser

iv been going out with my girlfriend now for about a year and a half and it has to be said that we are absolutly mad about each other, i love her to bits! the problem is we are both scared that our relationship is going to change now that im going to college.. il be going to cork while she'll still be in school in limerick. i know im going to try everything i can to see her as often as possible but this will still probobly going to be only once a week and we'v become so used to seeing eachother a lot more often than that.
im afraid we'll become distant from eachother:(
anyone been in a similar position before??? what can i do??

Dravokivich

You'll have to make do with seeing less of her... Doesn't mean you will like her less when away as much as you do now...

- Drav!

murfie

I wouldn't call Cork and Limerick a long distance relationship!! Some people commute to work further than that. Even if you don't have a car its a short bus or train journey. If you truly want to be together no distance will stop that, try 5000 miles.

Faith

It's a 2 hour trip. That's nothing in the grand scheme of things. You can spend whole weekends together. I did a year of Edinburgh - Tralee with my boyfriend, that was 7 hours door-to-door and cost a lot of money. We still managed to see each other every 3 weeks or so. It'll be a bit tough to get used to, but it's certainly nothing you can't get over.

Nerin

My girlfriend lives in dublin,i live in,well,you can see what it says in "location"

We see eachother every weekend if possible. I work full time back home,so rarely do we have weekdays. College sometimes clashes with stuff,other stuff sometimes clashes with other stuff,but its worked so far and i think it'll keep working.

Don't stress sir,it'll work its own way out.
Word of advice,make sure you've a phone package that gives free calls to eachother

marie_85

Cork to Limerick isn't that far - I'd kill to be that close to my guy. It'll be tough to get used to at first, but it's definitely manageable.

LegacyUser

I've visited my girlfriend for three years while she studied in cork. Hard all the way through i must admit. The experience we gained was great though. I got on the bus most Fridays after work from Waterford. Loved the journey because i always had laptop and ipod. We had a place to go whenever we wanted to get away from friends and family. Lots of clubs and pubs and resturants but mostly stayed in and enjoyed the freedom. Great shops too for dvds and music. Make the most of it we did. We both love cork now. Make sure you have a good network so that your mobile phone calls are cheap or better still free. Ye can talk any time ye want. Try house share with people if can. Those student villages are **** holes if you ask me. Constant fire alarm sirens and sick everywhere. Nice house near the college if you can(she had a house for two years). Best of Luck

LegacyUser

i spent 3 years studyin in limerick and my boyfriend was studyin in dublin.
if you want it to work then it will.
advice would be to try and see each other most weekends, both switch to phone network with free calls, understand that you both will have seperate lives now re: different friends etc but dont get jealous - it can happen easily when youre used to knowing what someone is doing, seeing them all time and getting used to not then.
ill admit it will be hard at the start but it reallly is something you get used to, and to be honest your relationship will be stronger for it, it allows you some independance.
dont worry about it too much...it will work itself out.just keep making an effort, and i'll also say enjoy college and the fun you'll have there too.
they really are the best times!!!