One last sexual encounter with the ex?

LegacyUser

After a long relationship and an even longer messy break up, sex for the last time was suggested to me by my ex. I'm tempted because the sex was good, but put off for the emotional confussion it might create.

Would you sleep with your ex if they offered one last session? for old times sake

BankMan

Yes. Yes, I would.

LegacyUser

No I wouldn't go there, you have broken up
really there is no point sleeping with someone who no longer you want to be with or they want to be with
It's just cold and can really get messed up

Liam Byrne

Depends on how - and why - it was suggested, and how you'd feel about it afterwards.

Novella

I would say no and run a mile. You say you had a messy break up so jumping back into bed together is hardly a good idea. He is your ex, there's a reason for that. One last time usually doesn't mean one last time at all! Reverting to your ex for sex is pretty much just like saying "Hey, it's too much effort for me to find someone new to sleep with. You're familiar, we've been there before, it's easy, c'mon"!

If the two of you honestly just want some no strings fun, then fair enough. Realistically though, one person always takes a break up harder and one of you is probably hoping it'll lead to something more. That is best avoided at all costs. If you and your ex want to continue with a friendship, I say leave the sex where it belongs, in the past. Move on.

Dimitri

Novella is spot on don't do it, i know a lot of people do do it but as has been said one person is invariably looking for this to turn into something more. If it was a messy break up your only prolonging that mess. If its purely for the sex then find a **** buddy that you have good chemistry and not a lot of emotional baggage. I've made this mistake before and i'm still paying the price, in my experience there is no such thing as no strings sex with an ex.

sillyputty

Agree 100% with the above poster,
From personal experience what was to be "one last time" turned into 4 month period of messiness and confusion.
Remember the relationship ended for a reason.

LegacyUser

If you and your ex want to continue with a friendship, I say leave the sex where it belongs, in the past

thats good advice. I never thought about the friendship aspect. I do want to remain friends.

I did find a F*!k buddy, but the sex was nowhere as good. I think we both know that tbh, thats why it has come up (2 years later) as an option.

I think I just need to sleep with more people.

Novella

oldlover wrote: »

thats good advice. I never thought about the friendship aspect. I do want to remain friends.

I did find a F*!k buddy, but the sex was nowhere as good. I think we both know that tbh, thats why it has come up (2 years later) as an option.

I think I just need to sleep with more people.

Exactly. If you have sex with him now, the whole friendship is out the window 'cause you will just be in fcuk buddy territory. I have nothing against fb relationships but in general, not a good idea with someone you have history with because it's not just a sexual encounter then, there are emotions involved.

I have been there, it doesn't end pretty! Nothing wrong with you and him being friends but skip the sex unless you want things to get ugly. You'll find someone new and you'll be fine and you'll still have your ex as your friend. A much better situation.

Wibbs

Ex sex is rarely enough any good. It's usually awful and a little awkward afterwards. This increases in likelihood the more passionate it was in the first place. Tread carefully OP.

Kalashnikov_Kid

DONT Ive been there before (and Im a guy). At least one of you will end up in tears. Tempting as it sounds its definately not worth it and youll save yourself alot of heartache