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My girlfriend is going to miss me...

  • 06-08-2009 12:01am
    #1
    truecrippler
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    Hey there, I've been going out with my beautiful girlfriend for nearly a year and we've spent 99% of that time together. I'm heading across the water this September to study at University. Sadly she isn't coming over with me.

    She's getting really upset about me going over. She wants me to go over and get a degree etc but she says she'll miss me so much. I've reassured her that I'm still her boyfriend and she's my girlfriend etc.

    Thing is, this is bothering me as I don't want her to be so upset. We'll see each other on webcam to say good morning, good night and everything in between.
    We will also see each other on holidays and other weeks off that I get and she gets.

    What can I do or say to her so that she's not upset as I feel like I'm the one upsetting her.

    Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    wolfric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭wolfric


    get her to go with you?


  • #3
    TestTransmission
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,106 ✭✭✭✭TestTransmission


    Across the water as in the UK?


  • #4
    Teferi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,320 ✭✭✭Teferi


    From your post it seems like a bit of time apart might be good for you both. I wouldn't worry about it.


  • #5
    truecrippler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,243 ✭✭✭truecrippler


    She can't go with me as she has to keep her job and would be too expensive.
    She's getting upset a lot lately as it's just about a month away when I'll be heading off to the UK.

    I'm doing this for us as it could seal my future employment... hopefully. So I feel that it's a good thing.

    I think this will make us a stronger couple but I really don't want her to be upset about it. Do you think she'll come to terms with it and won't be as upset as she is now? We'll still see each other and all.

    Thanks.


  • #6
    bronte
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,331 ✭✭✭✭bronte


    It's only the Uk, it can be done with a bit of effort on both sides.
    She may be overwhelmed by the idea that you are about to start having all these new experiences without her, especially as you say you've spent most of your time together so far. It will take some getting used to, but it definitely can work.


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  • #7
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    "She's going to miss me" ???? Are you going to miss her ?

    If so, it seems you're both 100% natural. Stop fretting.

    To me, it seems like (a) she's over-reacting slightly and (b) you're over-conscious of the effect it's having on her.

    Been there years ago, and it's a crap feeling; you both need to step back a little so that this relationship can survive the change, and go on to involve some great new experiences such as her calling over to visit you, etc.


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