First love again

harps90

heres the thing - 3 months ago met my first and only love ,from quite a number of years ago, online.we're both separated , and live in different parts of the country.we text each other every day , speak a couple of times a week, sometimes more.he admits he thinks about me all the time , and i must admit the same goes here.he often rings very late at night, after a few pints, and we talk for hours, conversation tends to vary between heavey stuff and just banter.my head is wrecked tho'!i hurt him quite badly in the distant past,so part of me would understand if he ran screaming - which he has'nt.i'm just so all over the place - guess i just needed to vent , but any words of wisdom would be welcome

dotty25

Do you think the reasons why you ended it the last time still exist?
I'd advise caution but isn't there always an element of risk involved in these things?
How far away, exactly, do you live from eachother?
Long distance relationships have been known to succeed, rare though it may be!

VaioCruiser

As the previous poster said - it depends whether the reason you broke up still applies.

If not then life is tooooo short to sit around and wonder what-if

After all this time, don't waste it texting. get together for a day out somewhere and see what happens.

Good luck - you could be the lucky recipient of a second chance


All the best.

harps90

we broke up as i was young and had just moved away, there was no one else involved or anything, but he now says that at the time he was devastated by my actions.i agree theres a risk involved,and in fairness thats half my trouble, do i push things and see where this is all going,if anywhere, or do i just carry on with the texts and phone calls, and never mention the elephant in the room?
we live a good bit away, over 2 hrs drive.

dotty25

I don't think 2 hours drive is that far. Not ideal, but it's really not as severe as some long-distance relationships I've heard of!

If you're texting and communicating as regularly as you say, I think you both have already invested some time/feelings into your "relationship", for want of a better word.

I think you should go for it, like the previous poster said, life is to short to avoid risk and wonder what might have been.

Kai

2 hour drive!!

I drive 1 hour to work no problem so another hour would hardly register if i was going to get laid when i got there

VaioCruiser

harps90 wrote: »

we broke up as i was young and had just moved away, there was no one else involved or anything, but he now says that at the time he was devastated by my actions.i agree theres a risk involved,and in fairness thats half my trouble, do i push things and see where this is all going,if anywhere, or do i just carry on with the texts and phone calls, and never mention the elephant in the room?
we live a good bit away, over 2 hrs drive.

Duh ?? 2 hours ?? is that all ??

What risk ? disappointment ? embarrassment ?

Stop texting and get into the real world of face to face relationships. Sit face to face and talk about it, all of it. See what happens.

What's the worst that can happen ?


All the best !

harps90

thanks all, another 2 calls from him last night, so its time to have a "chat" i think.like you said we are both investing a lot of time and thought into this and need to know where this is going, if anywhere.we had sort of arranaged to meet up twice but it did'nt happen.i sort of suspect he's a bit reluctant as one night after one too many, he did ask "what if you do'nt like me, what if we do'nt get on?" type questions.