What does this text mean???

NineIronWonder

ok so im texting this girl pretty much non stop the last few weeks...

Last night i get a text

' I wish u could come to my house and cuddle me to sleep:)'

'It would put me right to sleep in your arms:)'

does this mean anything??

shellyboo

It means she wishes you would cuddle her to sleep.

Does it mean she fancies you? Yes. That or she's an unbelievable headwrecker. We need more information!

Liam Byrne

But maybe she DOESN'T actually "fancy" him ?

Because if she did she wouldn't want to sleep ?

Quit over-thinking it, OP; depending on the conversation, mood, etc, loads of people say "wish you were here" - even on postcards, where they almost NEVER mean it!

But I'm joking a little; regardless of how she mean it, there was a compliment of some sort in there, and she wouldn't say it if she wasn't comfortable with you.

So smile in that knowledge and then let it slide...

WIZE

Shes going to cut off your arms and use them for pillows

AARRRGH

NineIronWonder wrote: »

does this mean anything??

Are you trying to ask does she want to have sex with you?

If a girl texted me that, I would be surprised if we weren't having sex with each other within a week or two, or more likely, that night.

Why didn't you go to her house?

WIZE

BVB wrote: »

Shes going to cut off your arms and use them for pillows

She likes you . Sorry for taking the piss

Chora

It means she likes you ALOT!! You should've went over there!

LoanShark

It could also mean that she was reading a Mills and Boon before she went to sleep!!

But, She might also like you too..It's hard to call!

Lucyx

Yeah I'd say you're good to go with this chick.

I'd kill for a text like that.

Ellsbells

It means she is a bit of a romantic and wanted you there for a cuddle. If she had wanted a shag she would have said it.. I guess she is getting across the point that she wants this relationship to be based on more than sex....

Dont read into it...

waraf

Jaysus I thought I was bad at interpreting signals from women :rolleyes:

It means she likes you OP...

AckwelFoley

wow, that a real cryptic message, perhaps shes asking to instigate an assination on the president?

No seriously, its rather obvious what she means, she likes you and would like to be with you now. You are simply blinded by love..cute

frag420

it means your a pillow!!

Now go for it!

MJOR

she likess you it means less texting more cuddles:o

GreeBo

It means that you are boring and you bore her. Bore her to sleep in fact.

Micky Dolenz

Your a real sweetie, I hope my female relatives meet a guy like you.

I see sex in your future son

LegacyUser

you are defo in there with her

LegacyUser

yeah Id say she is into you.

If I texted a guy that it would mean I want more than just cuddles but it just would be much harder to text 'come over and sh*g me!" and perhaps a little blunt.

BVB

BVB wrote: »

Shes going to cut off your arms and use them for pillows

I'm sorry, but that did make me laugh.

OP, she likes you and wants to cuddle you. Arrange to meet her as soon as you can! Though it's a lot easier said than done, trust me I do it all the time and it annoys me, it's sometimes best to take things on face value and not look for hidden meanings.

LegacyUser

could be a good thing

Mackleton

Listen OP, from a female perspective, this girl was thinking of you in bed and then went so far as to invite you into her bed, (under whatever pretext) so, whatever wording she put on it, she wanted you in bed with her and in typical male fashion you didn't get the very obvious come on. She's clearly ready and willing my friend, time for you to make the move...good luck!

Liam Byrne

Unregistered wrote: »

If I texted a guy that it would mean I want more than just cuddles but it just would be much harder to text 'come over and sh*g me!" and perhaps a little blunt.

Oh, if only all women thought the same and I'd known this a few weeks ago.......there was me thinking that "a curl up would be nice, but no monkey business, mind!" meant - I dunno - "a curl up and no monkey business" ??

Novella

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Oh, if only all women thought the same and I'd known this a few weeks ago.......there was me thinking that "a curl up would be nice, but no monkey business, mind!" meant - I dunno - "a curl up and no monkey business" ??

Haha, if I texted a guy and said I wanted cuddles, guess what, I'd want cuddles! If I wanted to do something else completely, I'd say that straight out too! I don't think it's being crude and sometimes you just have to blunt, nothing wrong with it!

Anyway OP, yeah, she likes you!

Liam Byrne

Novella wrote: »

Haha, if I texted a guy and said I wanted cuddles, guess what, I'd want cuddles! If I wanted to do something else completely, I'd say that straight out too! I don't think it's being crude and sometimes you just have to blunt, nothing wrong with it!

Anyway OP, yeah, she likes you!

Again, if only all women were so straightforward.......Novella, I think I love you!

Novella

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Again, if only all women were so straightforward.......Novella, I think I love you!

Thank you

I think a lot of women are straight forward though. It's just there seems to be this huge confusion, like "Oh, she said X, but she must mean Y". Like with the OP here. Why does everyone have to go looking for hidden messages in things? The girl wanted a cuddle!!

gaeilgegrinds

She likes you but how much is the question...

Liam Byrne

Novella wrote: »

Thank you

I think a lot of women are straight forward though. It's just there seems to be this huge confusion, like "Oh, she said X, but she must mean Y". Like with the OP here. Why does everyone have to go looking for hidden messages in things? The girl wanted a cuddle!!

Er - the infamous "women's prerogative to change their minds", maybe ?

Novella

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Er - the infamous "women's prerogative to change their minds", maybe ?

Ah yes, but changing her mind is a completely different kettle of fish! That would be going from "I want a cuddle" to "Get off me, I don't wanna cuddle you!" and men can change their minds too!

I think, in general, when a person likes someone, they tend to spend way too much time reading into what they're saying, like "Oh, she said she likes me but she probably meant just as a friend or she's probably just trying to be nice.". If we spent half as much focusing on what people have actually said and acting on it, the world would be a much less complicated place!

TURRICAN

why do fellas look for another meaning?

im a fella!

and somtimes im the same as you op.

Novella

TURRICAN wrote: »

why do fellas look for another meaning?

im a fella!

and somtimes im the same as you op.

I think everyone does so not to worry!

Panda Bear

It means what it say...
' I wish u could come to my house and cuddle me to sleep
she never said...
' I want u to come to my house and cuddle me to sleep
Nice romatic bedtime thought between two people one saying I am thinking about you before I go to sleep and want a relationship buy not based on sex.

Dont read into everything and just reply In a similiar vein I wish I could be there to cuddle you too...
Its not all about a shag you know

BankMan

NineIronWonder wrote: »

ok so im texting this girl pretty much non stop the last few weeks...

Last night i get a text

' I wish u could come to my house and cuddle me to sleep:)'

'It would put me right to sleep in your arms:)'

does this mean anything??

As a wise man once said - "Giggedy".

NineIronWonder

No it obviously doesnt mean that she fancies me or is into me anyway other than being friends!!! when i asked her out she said awwhh noo lets just stay good friends it wouldn work... i feel like a complete fool now

Wibbs

Don't feel too bad as clearly she's a headwrecker. I would interpret that text as lets get busy/Im interested. Sounds like she was looking for a cuddle bitch. If she asks again suggest a teddy bear. Move on, the worlds full of women, good women and they're not rare, so it makes no sense to settle for one of the eejits.

kittenkiller

Hard luck NIW.
But at least you know for sure now.
You should be proud of yourself for trying in the first place.
More people should take risks like you!

shellyboo

Yeah, like I said at the start... either she fancies you or is an unbelievable headwrecker. Shame it turned out to be the latter, OP. For your own sanity, don't be friends with this selfish twit. Cut her out.

unhappycamper

NineIronWonder wrote: »

ok so im texting this girl pretty much non stop the last few weeks...

Last night i get a text

' I wish u could come to my house and cuddle me to sleep:)'

'It would put me right to sleep in your arms:)'

does this mean anything??

It means she is very young and not ready for a serious relationship but she recognises the comfort you give her, move on.

LegacyUser

Sorry to hijack the thread, but some perspective would be nice here. I have been seeing (kissing etc. no shaging yet) for the last month or so.

Anyway on the phone a couple of nights ago we were just messing around discussing what we would do that night (intended meeting up) So I said in a joking way "maybe I'll just call down to ya for a quick ride" we laughed it off and she just called me a cheeky so and so...Thought nothing of it.

Anyway we decided not to bother meeting that night as I was wrecked from a long today and so was she, a couple of hours later she texted "quick ride eh!!!" ...I was a bit excited but wasn't sure if she was just bored and messing again so I said "well maybe not that quick hahaha, dya want me to bring anything down with me when I call"...she replied "just a bottle of gin, think I'll need it HAHA"

left it there assumed as i thought she was just messing around which was fine, its early days!! BUT then she called half hour later, when I answered she just kind of said oh sorry dialled you by accident,

Now ever since i have been wondering should i have bitten the bullet and called dwn to her there and then, what do ye thinnk was she instigating this or just messing around, I feel like i may have missed out......

shellyboo

similar wrote: »

Now ever since i have been wondering should i have bitten the bullet and called dwn to her there and then, what do ye thinnk was she instigating this or just messing around, I feel like i may have missed out......

Only person who knows is her... ask her. And not by text :rolleyes:

Gyalist

similar wrote: »

Sorry to hijack the thread, but some perspective would be nice here. I have been seeing (kissing etc. no shaging yet) for the last month or so.

Anyway on the phone a couple of nights ago we were just messing around discussing what we would do that night (intended meeting up) So I said in a joking way "maybe I'll just call down to ya for a quick ride" we laughed it off and she just called me a cheeky so and so...Thought nothing of it.

Anyway we decided not to bother meeting that night as I was wrecked from a long today and so was she, a couple of hours later she texted "quick ride eh!!!" ...I was a bit excited but wasn't sure if she was just bored and messing again so I said "well maybe not that quick hahaha, dya want me to bring anything down with me when I call"...she replied "just a bottle of gin, think I'll need it HAHA"

left it there assumed as i thought she was just messing around which was fine, its early days!! BUT then she called half hour later, when I answered she just kind of said oh sorry dialled you by accident,

Now ever since i have been wondering should i have bitten the bullet and called dwn to her there and then, what do ye thinnk was she instigating this or just messing around, I feel like i may have missed out......

Well, don't be surprised if you eventually end up in the same position as the OP. She has given you every opportunity to escalate the relationship and you've, for whatever reason, not taken it. Even down to the bottle of gin - that was to provide plausible deniability - that sex just happened, that she was drunk, etc. and the follow-up phone call.

Women tend not to communicate in the same way as men. In this case you completely missed the message that she was sub-communicating to you.

Gyalist

shellyboo wrote: »

Only person who knows is her... ask her. And not by text :rolleyes:

Don't ask her. Doing that will engage her logical side and be counterproductive.

Meet up with her and reintroduce the conversation and go for it. If she doesn't want to she will let you know.

shellyboo

Gyalist wrote: »

Don't ask her. Doing that will engage her logical side and be counterproductive.

Really? Is someone who's afraid/incapable of thinking logically about whether or not they want to sleep with someone really someone you'd want to be with?

Gyalist

shellyboo wrote: »

Really? Is someone who's afraid/incapable of thinking logically about whether or not they want to sleep with someone really someone you'd want to be with?

Attraction is not based on logic.