Advice for me PLEASE!!!

PaulPaysUpBig

I need to get some advice for a situation ive encountered and am unsure about. Its a long story but please be patient. To start from the beginning...

My name is Paul. Iam 23 and a student currently working part time in an office. I have held this job now for nearly 5 years even though its only part time. About 8 months ago a co workers daughter started to work in the office aswell and we are approximatly the same age and both students etc.

Anyhow in the beginning it was simply a work and we got on fine. When alone she would be playful like hitting me etc., While we would talk about things of a serious nature she would always compliment me on my figure and has come to my defence. Slowly things progressed when she got my number from a co-worker, though she had a reason to text me. This led to us texting each day for a awhile after work but nothing more. And then things progressed a bit further as we began texting a little bit on and off, up to the point now were while we are awake(she wil mostly text me first) we will probably be texting each unless we are unable to do so.This led to an unfortunate night wereby in a drunken state i foolishly asked her were abouts we stood. While she did say that she couldnt wait to tear my clothes off she also asserted that she could not see herself kissing me or anythin that she was confused. However stil we have continued to text despite that night. This is a girl who has confided in me her with her past problems relationshipwise etc and does seek my opinion etc on certain subjects.Recently she has been working and many co workers were asking her about me and she says work isnt fun without when im not there. She has said that im cool and very funny but then im confused.

I believe that iam in the friendzone with this girl even though i really really dont want to be... My friends are divided with some believing that iam and others that iam not but that i must make a move. Unfortunatly for me we are from different places it wouldnt be a long distance relationship but on a night out we would never cross paths...Currently work is conspiring against me and i feel she is getting away:( yet iam paralyzed to move because i fear i wil be rejected... Iam i a friend for her or something more????

tbh

you're a friend. Put it this way, if there a girl you really liked, and you knew she liked you too, why wouldn't you kiss her?

You've a choice here mate. You can judge her by her actions, or by her words. Her words are saying "you may have a chance", and if you're willing to ignore all other girls, wreck your head about this girl and run up a massive phone bill, you may - MAY - get somewhere months later on.

Or, you can judge her by her actions. There's nothing stopping her being with you, but she hasn't been.

I would say she doesn't fancy you, but likes the attention. as soon as someone she does fancy comes along, you'll be dropped (but we can still be friends, right?)

Tell her out straight. You want to take it further, but if she doesn't, that's cool, you just won't be texting her again. No hard feelings. My guess is, you won't ask her the question because you know what the answer will be and you don't want to hear it. And that's cool. Some things you have to learn the hard way

good luck man. No sex is as hot as the sex the girl you love is having with her new boyfriend in your head. Sorry

tbh

by the way man, forget the poll. Even if 100% of people say you're deffo in there, it has no relevance.

Xiney

Polls have no place in Personal Issues anyway. I've removed it.

NineIronWonder

Your are in the friendzone sorry pal

LegacyUser

i believe you are close to the friendzone but she has shown u some interest so you should make a move before its tooo late and you are condemned to the friendzone

LegacyUser

when a girl says she would like to tear your clothes off but is confused, you can help settle that confusion by kissing her. Might be the case of lobbing the gob when you're drunk. If it's meant to be you might try it again sober, and if it's not you can both blame the drink.

It's horrible that this is how relationships are formed/resolved/destroyed in Ireland.