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Wrecking my head

  • 03-08-2009 7:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I will try to keep this short. Lads, any insight would be much appreciated. I have been seeing my OH for awhile now. He was very hurt in the past and I am his first relationship in a very long time. In fact, I am the first girl he has seen since he was hurt. When we met we had an instant connection and have a great time together. Every time we get close and I think things are going well he completely freaks out and tells me he doesn't have strong feelings for me and doesn't want to be serious with me, but wants to keep seeing me. However, when we are with each other the conversation and basic time together are amazing (and I'm not just saying this to make myself feel better). He is very sweet to me and has taken me home numerous times to meet his Mum and Dad. I know he isn't seeing anyone else and he spends a lot of time with me (not just in the bedroom). We see each other almost every day in fact. Basically, his words don't match his actions. I am not sure how I feel about him because he never lets me get close enough. What should I do? Should I keep trying or break things off? Do ye think he doesn't like me and is just using me? Please be brutally honest. I am very confused.


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Easy. He's scared. Stick with it if you really like him.


  • #3
    CDfm
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    Do you like him -take it easy and let it develop.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Sometimes I do really like him, but when he pushes me away it makes me not so interested. As for waiting, it's been 7 months and I have never pushed him into anything. I feel like that is a pretty long time and I am beginning to tire of being so relaxed about the whole thing.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Honestly. I wouldn't wast any more time here if I was you. Unless you are happy having a casual relationship with him, and it doesn't sound like you are, then I'd leave it.

    I can see why you are confused, it is odd to take someone to meet your parents and see them everyday if you only want to see them causally but he has said to you that he does not have strong feelings for you and doesn't want anything serious. I think you should take that at face value. It's very easy to try and convince yourself that there's something else going on her that isn't actually happening, easy to blame to fact that he's been hurt before etc but I don't think it's helpful, it has been 7 months after all. If you want more, ask him one more time if there us ever going to be anything serious between you explaining your confusion, if the answer is still no then move on.


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