A quick query for guys

LegacyUser

Met a lovely guy the other night, chatted for hours and ended up kissing. He saw me home but didn't ask for my number. We got on very well so I was a bit surprised - I rarely click with anyone like that. Why would a guy not ask for a girls number?? He seemed quite into me and I'm pretty sure he didn't have a girlfriend..

Unregistered

Unregistered wrote: »

Met a lovely guy the other night, chatted for hours and ended up kissing. He saw me home but didn't ask for my number. We got on very well so I was a bit surprised - I rarely click with anyone like that. Why would a guy not ask for a girls number?? He seemed quite into me and I'm pretty sure he didn't have a girlfriend..

Did your tongue fall out or was there a similar reason you didn't ask for his number?

LegacyUser

maybe he was shy..... or thought you weren't into him. or he doesn't want a relationship... could be a number of different reasons TBH.

rockmongrel

Agreed, why didn't you ask for his number?

We do live in a post feminist society after all :pac:

Liam Byrne

Unregistered wrote: »

Met a lovely guy the other night, chatted for hours and ended up kissing. He saw me home but didn't ask for my number. We got on very well so I was a bit surprised - I rarely click with anyone like that. Why would a guy not ask for a girls number?? He seemed quite into me and I'm pretty sure he didn't have a girlfriend..

Hmmmm......

Option 1 : he's previously met some girls for whom the above would be red flags and would have made them run a mile...

Option 2 : nice night, for what it was, but not on for a follow-up. no harm done

Option 3 : he's elsewhere on boards saying pretty much what you typed above, reversed

Basically, without being him, we can't know and can't tell you. But if you wanted him to call you, you should probably have said so.

Is there a chance that you'll be able to "bump into" him again ?

This is about the third or fourth thread I've read this week along the same lines, so I'll spell it out for the "fairer sex":

Guys are not mind-readers, ladies; we don't know what goes on in ye'r heads!

Flipping 'eck; with all the disasters and crap that we read about here and elsewhere, it's nice to hear a few positives; but if ye do find someone decent that ye click with and want to meet again, for god's sake give ye'rselves SOME chance of a follow-up!

ManOfMystery

Maybe he has a girlfriend

Maybe he isn't after a relationship and was happy with a snog

Maybe he had a few drinks in him and thats the only reason it went as far as it did

Maybe he was so into you he actually forgot to ask for your number (no joke, I did it once)

Maybe you should have asked for his!

LegacyUser

Yeah I know I should've asked for his but I was waiting for him to ask and then it got a little awkward and then he was in a taxi going home! And highly unlikely I'll bump into him again. It's just annoying cos I did really like him!

Sinall

I would assume that if a guy does not ask for my number then he does not want it. I too have had experiences where guys have seemed quite into me - but they might just be into me for that specific period of time, or just have no intention of taking it any further!

You win some you lose some! If you see him again, or if this happens with some other guy, then consider asking for his number.

Liam Byrne

Sinall wrote: »

I would assume that if a guy does not ask for my number then he does not want it.

Incorrect assumption.

Sinall wrote: »

I too have had experiences where guys have seemed quite into me - but they might just be into me for that specific period of time, or just have no intention of taking it any further!

As we all have. The words "guy" or "girl" aren't relevant in that scenario - only the word "person".

Sinall wrote: »

You win some you lose some! If you see him again, or if this happens with some other guy, then consider asking for his number.

Agreed 100% on this part.

Sinall

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Incorrect assumption.



As we all have. The words "guy" or "girl" aren't relevant in that scenario - only the word "person".



Agreed 100% on this part.

I was just making that assumption in relation to my own cases and my own love life. It might not be the case in the OP's situation!


I agree that the word "person" would be more relevant, but given that I am a straight girl, "guys" are the ones I tend to have romantic encounters with!

OP, I hope you bump into him again....

Liam Byrne

Sinall wrote: »

I was just making that assumption in relation to my own cases and my own love life. It might not be the case in the OP's situation!

Don't get me wrong; I'm not arguing. I'm just saying that even within your own cases, you may have assumed wrong. That's the inherent problem with assumptions.

Sinall wrote: »

I agree that the word "person" would be more relevant, but given that I am a straight girl, "guys" are the ones I tend to have romantic encounters with!

And the exact mirror image applies here. Just pointing out that we're not always the bad "guys"......

Sinall

Liam Byrne wrote: »

And the exact mirror image applies here. Just pointing out that we're not always the bad "guys"......

I completely agree! Although I don't think it's "bad" of a guy not to want to see me again, that's his own personal choice and I would never blame someone for that. Equally, if the situation is reversed, I wouldn't think it would be fair to think that a woman is in the wrong for not wanting to see a man again.

In relation to actual "bad" behaviour I would see the sexes as evenly matched - both equally as capable of messing people around/cheating etc as the other!

sweatingbullets

Sinall wrote: »

I would assume that if a guy does not ask for my number then he does not want it.

Assumption is the mother of all f**k ups.you shudda just asked him.

Sinall

sweatingbullets wrote: »

Assumption is the mother of all f**k ups.you shudda just asked him.

This has been pretty enlightening for me - maybe I will the next time! Maybe you should too OP!;)

NickNolte

Unregistered wrote: »

Yeah I know I should've asked for his but I was waiting for him to ask and then it got a little awkward

You were waiting for him to ask? Is that some kind of an ego thing where you want to feign disinterest in order to make yourself look, I don't know, important or 'big' or something?

You had your chance. You blew it. Either forget about it, move on and lose the ego next time you meet someone you like or maybe put yourself into a position where you'll meet this guy again.