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  • 02-08-2009 11:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I am in a long term relationship with a girl i love very much. However, our sex life has never been brilliant because i suffer premature ejaculation. Only times I dont is when I am drunk.
    So a lot of the time i avoid having sex with my gf. I dont say anything to her about it and she never complains..even when we do have sex and it only lasts 10 seconds!

    It really gets me down too and fear it will strain our relationship at some stage.

    Any advice?

    Thanks.


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  • #2
    Doyler92
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,664 ✭✭✭Doyler92


    I'm going to admit it's the exact same for me. When sober I can't last. When drunk I go forever. I was thinking about going to the doctor about it but I'd rather get help from people on this first


  • #3
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    Could be a medical issue (and if you think it may be, consult your GP) or could simply be an issue of practice.

    TBCFH, I used to have this problem too. With a lot of practice and a lot of concentration, I got over it and ended up being able to go for fuggin ages. If you're in a loving relationship, discuss it with your gf and ask her to help you. And as any action movie star would tell you if you run out of bullets, stop, reload, and shoot again.


    Also, you should defo try to up the frequency with which you masturbate, so as to get more used to lasting etc.


  • #4
    Doyler92
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,664 ✭✭✭Doyler92


    What do you mean with a lot of practice and concentration exactly?


  • #5
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    I know it's easily said, but try to relax; you're with someone you love, and who loves you back, so it's not a performance test!

    Some randomer might judge you, but your g/f won't......just try to relax (yup, probably easier said than done), and enjoy the fact that you're with someone who won't judge or diss you over it.

    And if all else fails, show her what you think of her in other ways.....there's more to life and love than sex!

    Like couples that I've known who are dying to get pregnant, thinking about "the problem" makes it worse; anyone I've known who relaxed and took the pressure off got pregnant within weeks.....

    Not saying it's completely the same, but if you're with someone understanding who loves you, then be glad, and experiment a little - but above all, try to relax! It's not a test, and it's not about proving yourself - she's with you because she wants to be, and that - in this day and age - is a MAJOR plus!

    Maybe try a few new things, or positions, but try to switch off the possible panic - you're with someone who loves you - lucky you!


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