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Falling for a friend

  • 01-08-2009 7:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I posted about this issue last week, in short - i've fallen for a friend of mine who is apparantly obsessed with his gfriend (they are doing long distance at the mo). she's coming over soon and im going to be forced to be best buds with him and her or else stop hanging out with both. neither are good options of course.

    last night another friend of mine started asking him (drunkenly) questions about his gfriend and then randomly asked him about me - i knew nothing about this by the way. next thing i know he's telling me about that conversation - he didnt comment with his opinion, he just sort of stated the fact that she had asked him. i didnt know what to do, was MORTIFIED and angry with my other friend for doing this without my permission, so just joked it off a bit and said that the questions did not come from me and that this friend was just stirring things up. gulp....second incident - a guy i've been with a couple of times was there last night again and he was trying it on, but i;ve no interest whatsoever (as he was an a'''hole and ignores me until he's had about 6 pints). My friend (the guy i like!) saw this and seperately told the other dude that he 'cant stand him'...kept saying i'm better than him etc...probably just loyalty of a good friend though.

    so now his gf will arrive for at least a few weeks, maybe longer, and im still no closer to having a battle plan - i think i'll try to be as nice as i can and as normal as i can with her and him both. maybe i'll get over this. i hope so anyway. ...but, since its hard to give up hope....can any of you read any positive signs from the incidents of last night?

    what do you make of it lads?


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  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    This is what I make of it :

    You think you can survive just being friends with this guy?
    If so then fine,find someone else.

    If not then blooming well go and have *that* conversation with the guy.
    You've nothing to lose.

    I know I'd be gentle :)


  • #3
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    I think that you should just tell this guy how you feel. If he feels the same, great. If no, just forget about him. You'll probably have to stop being friends with him tbh. What you should not try to do is subtly break him and his girlfriend up. It's not fair to anyone.

    You're just going to drive yourself insane if you continue on as you are. Trust me, I've been there more than one. And to be brutally honest, I see nothing from what you're written to indicate that he's interested :(


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