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  • 01-08-2009 6:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Me and my patner have been together for the last 6 years. due to various reasons we do not live together, which is fine. My issue is, he has no problem spending my money, and its starting to get to me in a big way. For example, he will use my credit card to buy things on the internet without asking me. I know that if he had a card he would have no problems with me using it, . Granted its only ever betwbut just the fact that he doesn't give me the decentency(sp) to ask me before he uses it.granted it is only ever between 20-50 but thats my money that I have to work hard for!
    Anyway do you think I am being a liitle sensetive?
    Thanks for reading.


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  • #2
    aonfocaleile
    Closed Accounts Posts: 83 ✭✭aonfocaleile


    I think its bang out of order to be honest. Does he pay you back or do you end up paying for his purchases? When do you find out? If its only when you get the bill then thats not on in my book.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here, yes generally when I get the bill. He always says he will give me the money but tbh most of the time we both forget about it. I am planning on having it out with him tonight as I discovered that he had spent money on paypal today when I logged into it. The thing that annoyed me the most was that I had been talking to him after and he didnt even mention it.


  • #4
    muboop1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,025 ✭✭✭muboop1


    I wouldn't have it out with him in an argument.

    Maybe suggest he gets his own credit card and ask him why he doesn't have one?

    Odd considering he uses one regularly.

    Beyond that be honest with him.

    "look i have no problem with you using my credit card, but could you please let me know in advance? i keep seeing these transaction that i have no knowledge of making and it worries me sometimes. And its just polite to ask!"

    If i heard that id say ok...


  • #5
    MelonieHead
    Closed Accounts Posts: 336 ✭✭MelonieHead


    I would agree that the guy should take some responsibility for these things himself, either by getting a Visa debit card (accepted like a Visa but you're only taking your own money out of your account - no credit) or by using 3V vouchers. It's not on to be using your card whenever he wants and not even ask you or let you know IMO.


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