How do I tell her I think the world of her?

LegacyUser

Hi, Im 19. I know a girl who is 22 and i think she is the most attractive, kind and caring person i have ever known. Basically my dream partner.

Now, i've never really had a proper girlfriend. Im 6ft and would consider myself fairly handsome (ie. she told me the other day i have gorgeous eyes, but said it in her kind and friendly way, thats how i cant tell if she likes me) and have a personality similar to the above girl, kind, friendly etc. but girls just tend not to "fancy" me, rather see me as a good friend. I dont know what im doing wrong. I was told by a different girl in college that "I'm too nice". Maybe this is why.

This girl anyway, we've been friends for the last 3 years, see eachother about once a week and i've always thought she was very special. Special in such a way that you wouldnt meet a girl like her very often.

Basically, I want to know, how do i convey to her that i think she is the most beautiful and kind girl i have ever known, without being creepy?

i wouldnt want to damage our relationship as it is so am trying to be careful.

Coffee Addict

Hey
You could always do the whole........can I ask you a question from a girls point of view.....I have this other friend who fancies this girl but they are good mates & he is afraid to ruin their relationship by telling her....what should he do.
Hopefully she will pick up on this & get the hint.
Have you ever dropped hints around her before?
Do you discuss relationships, boyfriends/girlfriends etc?

I think you can tell a lot from someones eyes...they are supposed to be the gateway to the soul, so by her telling you, you have nice eyes it means shes looking into yours.

Life is too short, if you like her take the chance....
Best of luck

cantdecide

Just come out with it but be prepared that your friendship might change whether you like it or not. If it was meant ot be, it will be and if it wasn't you are young and will realise that if it's not this girl, it might be the next or the one after that or the one after that. 'There are plenty more fish in the sea' isn't just an old cliche.

Another point is that if girls see you with other girls, they will start to consider you more as a romantic prospect. In a nuthsell, don't hang around wating for a sign...

LegacyUser

Coffee Addict wrote: »

Hey
You could always do the whole........can I ask you a question from a girls point of view.....I have this other friend who fancies this girl but they are good mates & he is afraid to ruin their relationship by telling her....what should he do.
Hopefully she will pick up on this & get the hint.
Have you ever dropped hints around her before?
Do you discuss relationships, boyfriends/girlfriends etc?

I think you can tell a lot from someones eyes...they are supposed to be the gateway to the soul, so by her telling you, you have nice eyes it means shes looking into yours.

Life is too short, if you like her take the chance....
Best of luck

i havent really dropped many hints around her before but im now starting to get a bit more confident and have complimented her a few times about how she looks.

hmmm...i really dont want to take the chance but i suppose the "can i ask you a question from a girls point of view" might give me an idea.

Thank you for your reply

Coffee Addict

Best of luck!
I hope it turns out well!

PinkTulips

Don't drop hints... it makes things awkward and uncomfortable and it's never attractive to have a man basically tell you; 'I'm too scared to make a move but i'm making sure you know i want to so the ball's in your court but if you don't make a move on me now i'm going to get all hurt and wounded puppy about it'

I've had 'friends' do that to me and it killed the friendship.

Whereas the mates who had the balls to say 'Look, i fancy you. Have i got a chance or should we just pretend i didn't say anything' generally got what they wanted and if the relationship didn't last we stayed friends afterwards as we knew where we stoood with each other.

TriceMarie

I think you should say it to her,when the times right,in a matter of fact way:
"You know you're beautiful etc.." but just act normal,like your just stating a fact.
Then it's up to her if she reacts like "aw thanks hun,your sweet.You're such a good friend"
or
she starts to kiss you,or tells you she wants to more than friends or whatever