Oh what a pr!ck. OK I'm as bad!

LegacyUser

Sorry to post but have to get it out! Im furious absolutly! Sorry Im kinda writing this in the darkish!!

First I will start off just had a blazing row with himself..
Me no happy bunny , I tols him it was iover and to get out of my house!!! When he sobers up! Im just home no alcohol in my system!

The minute i Came throuhgh the doo rhe had an attitude with me! Then I stay quiet affraid to say anything and he starts mouthing off calling me moody. So explained why I was quiet and then with the most patronising most unbelievable comment... U uingrateful bitch!!!

Like seriously then he says yeah go run off(im still sitting on chair) and I say well mayb I would have I might just go sown to the room and watch tv or go on the computer... next comment from him... yeah MY computer!!! So I threw my drink at him and told him to get the bleep out oof my bleepin house!!

He said whats ur real problem heregirl ? I didnt know what to say and came down here...

Have I really done something really wrong...

So Confused and so angry... and yes Im using his computer..

HELP

Silverfish

I appreciate you're fuming for some reason, but what exactly was the problem when he came in? It's not very clear.

temper ohhhh! wrote: »

! So I threw my drink at him

That was out of order.

LegacyUser

I have absolutly no idea... ? Seriously!!!
Thats why I cant get my head around it!

Thought just entered my head may be he wanted the row and knowing my reaction would be harsh!

Firetrap

I'd like to help you with your problem but I'm having trouble understanding what you're trying to say. Can you re-edit your original post to make it clearer and maybe run it through a spell-check?

lolli

Wow your relationship doesnt sound too healthy, calling names and throwing drinks doesn't sound very mature.

You guys need to talk and decide where your relationship is going.

Messed Up Mind

Firetrap wrote: »

I'd like to help you with your problem but I'm having trouble understanding what you're trying to say. Can you re-edit your original post to make it clearer and maybe run it through a spell-check?

Fixed for OP so that others have an understanding of what is happening

Sorry to post this, but I have to vent! I'm absolutely furious! Sorry, I'm kinda writing this in the dark (dark house?)!!

Firstly, I will start off by saying that I just had a blazing row with my partner and I'm not happy about it. I told him that it was over and to that he should get out of my house when he sobers up (I'm just home and have no alcohol in my system).

The minute I came through the door he had an attitude with me. I stayed quiet, afraid to say anything, and then he starts calling me moody. I explained why I was quiet and then he said to me that I was an 'ungrateful bitch' in a very patronising manner. Like, seriously. Then he said that I should go run off. At this point I was still sitting on the chair. I said that maybe I should just go downstairs and watch the TV or go on the computer. The next thing he said to me was 'yeah, my computer'! I got so mad and threw my drink at him and then told him to get the bleep out of my bleepin' house. He then said to me 'what's your real problem here girl'? I didnt know what to say and came down here...

Have I really done something really wrong... So confused and so angry... and yes Im using his computer..

HELP

vibe666

sounds like you might both need to chill out and sleep on it and talk about whatever it is that just happened in the morning.

tommiejoie

vibe666 wrote: »

sounds like you might both need to chill out and sleep on it and talk about whatever it is that just happened in the morning.

+1. Reacting to whatever the problem is in a voilent way won't get you anywhere.

Gman1

Im not an expert or anything, im speaking for personal experience. I have a feeling that he represses a lot of issues, instead of sitting down and talking them out. Then when he is drunk these issues surface sometimes making him angry, so he lashes out at you. You might not be the cause of this anger at all! He probly just doesnt have the courage to talk about or maybe even acknowledge his feelings. You need to talk it out, this could end up happening everytime he drinks. Make sure he knows that its ok to open up, he might feel or think he is stupid for opening up. You just have to reassure him, and be trusting. Hope this helps.

LegacyUser

Sorry I was typing this in the dark room cos I dindt want him to come in and start arguing again!

But the inevitable did happen - he came in while I was sleeping and woke me to argue.
So when he went to sleep nad I couldnt, and so I made my secision and packed up most of his stuff and left it at the door.

However this morning Im feeling very refreashed and yet Im gettin the blame for my actions even though I was sober! Anyways thats nor here nor there and so I packed the rest of his stuff and its in the shed he can pick it up.

I have too much self respect to let anyone speak to me like that and so I have made the decision that his time is up and he is fired!!

How could I regain any respect for him after last night. Big turn off. But I will say I love him like I never loved nayone before but I have a child to think about and those type of out bursts I do not want my child to see.

Thanks and sorry for the confusion from my 1st mail.

Peace out

CDfm

bad me wrote: »

I have absolutly no idea... ? Seriously!!!
Thats why I cant get my head around it!

Thought just entered my head may be he wanted the row and knowing my reaction would be harsh!

This still isnt clear - you acted on the spur of the moment because you thought he wanted to argue.Threw a drink etc. Blazing row ensued and he went to sleep as he had had a few drinks and you couldnt.

You couldnt go out last night presumably as you had to stay in with your child and I assume its not his child.

The argument started again this morning.He called you names.

You say you love him and rather than talking thru the problem you have packed his stuff and put it in the shed.

It seems more about you than you are willing to admit.

Firetrap

Hmm. It's very nasty sounding. Have you two got a history of fighting like this? Do you have a fiery relationship anyway?

As an aside, there's an extension for Firefox that checks your spelling as you type in the browser. This is one of them - I find it invaluable for when I get a dose of banana fingers. IeSpell works with Internet Explorer

Wagon

What did you have the row about in the first place?

VaioCruiser

lolli wrote: »

Wow your relationship doesnt sound too healthy, calling names and throwing drinks doesn't sound very mature.

You guys need to talk and decide where your relationship is going.

Sounds to me like a normal passionate married relationship where something has happened that has really set them both off.

OP - It's great to blow off steam here ... but if you want anyone's meaningful insight you need to take a deep breath and tell us what is going on - on both sides ...


All the best.