Guys opinions on virgins

LegacyUser

In my 20s and a virgin.

1. Are guys honored to be a girl's first? Or are they scared by it?

2. Do guys prefer experienced women or someone new? Is it a prize all men like to chase?

d1975

my girlfriend was 34 and a virgin she never met the right guy in the past to be comfortable to do the business.

LegacyUser

d1975 wrote: »

my girlfriend was 34 and a virgin she never met the right guy in the past to be comfortable to do the business.

OP here. But how did you feel about that??

LegacyUser

personally it does not bother me if a girl is a virgin or not. I do think no matter how much they try not to show it they are pleased to be a girls first. Men can be sensitive too. It shows that in most cases the girl cares for you and trusts you enough to be their first (unless one night stand of course, then they dont care as its just a quick fling). I wouldnt be scared at all. I wouldnt see it as a prize and experience is not everything!

joeduggan

Unregistered wrote: »

In my 20s and a virgin.

1. Are guys honored to be a girl's first? Or are they scared by it?

2. Do guys prefer experienced women or someone new? Is it a prize all men like to chase?

id be honoured to be a girls first and experienced women intimidate me, i think.

rhyolite

Unregistered wrote: »

In my 20s and a virgin.

1. Are guys honored to be a girl's first? Or are they scared by it?

2. Do guys prefer experienced women or someone new? Is it a prize all men like to chase?

like most things in life depends on the person and is usually a bit of everything.

its kind of nice to be a girls first lover, but, the two nightmares for a bloke going with a virgin are: she'll either say 'was that it?', or she'll flip-out because she didn't know what it was going to be like and is horrified or has some emotional issues that the bloke didn't know about or didn't notice.

i don't know any blokes who purposefully chase virgins - i'm not on a special wing in prison - but i personally would be a bit suspicious of a virgin (of either sex) over about 22/23, quite simply because that person would have been 'on the market' (dreadful term, but marginally better than 'legal'!) for 6/7 years and still hadn't found someone they were confortable having even a short sexual relationship with. theres an awful lots of young men and women out there looking for other men and women to experiment with - if a person hasn't managed to click with any of them in 6 years then its quite likely that its a problem with them and not the million other people trying to get into their pants.

there might well be very good reasons for it, and there are definately exceptions to this logic, but it makes it less likely that you're going to hook up with someone with 'issues'...

LegacyUser

rhyolite wrote: »

like most things in life depends on the person and is usually a bit of everything.

its kind of nice to be a girls first lover, but, the two nightmares for a bloke going with a virgin are: she'll either say 'was that it?', or she'll flip-out because she didn't know what it was going to be like and is horrified or has some emotional issues that the bloke didn't know about or didn't notice.

i don't know any blokes who purposefully chase virgins - i'm not on a special wing in prison - but i personally would be a bit suspicious of a virgin (of either sex) over about 22/23, quite simply because that person would have been 'on the market' (dreadful term, but marginally better than 'legal'!) for 6/7 years and still hadn't found someone they were confortable having even a short sexual relationship with. theres an awful lots of young men and women out there looking for other men and women to experiment with - if a person hasn't managed to click with any of them in 6 years then its quite likely that its a problem with them and not the million other people trying to get into their pants.

there might well be very good reasons for it, and there are definately exceptions to this logic, but it makes it less likely that you're going to hook up with someone with 'issues'...

OP here. That's very judgemental of you. There are millions of exceptions to this logic. There are plently of people who are not virgins with more serious issues than whether or not they chose to have respect for themselves and wait for someone worthwhile.

Also I was not referring to sex offenders when i asked if men prefer virgins? I am asking if there is something innate in men that makes them appreciate one?

Silverfish

OP, this is not a relationship issue, it is a survey.

If you would like to start a new thread detailing how this is a personal issue for you, or perhaps if you want to discuss other people's opinions you may like to start a thread in Humanities.