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Single After 9 Years ... er, what do I do again???

  • 30-07-2009 11:35pm
    #1
    Gizzle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 499 ✭✭


    Hey, as no-one knows me on this, I thought I'd post under my own nick. Basically, the problems in the title, I've recently been dumped by my childhood sweetheart after nine years, and, aside from feeling like boiled poo, I don't have a clue what to do to get back in the game so to speak. I mean, last time I connected with someone, it was acceptable practice to get behind them and do the "snake hips" in the vain hope that they would turn around, and if you were caught kissing a girl out were put out by the wall! Anyways, any tips anyone who was/is in a similar situation can give me would be greatly appreciated. Thanks all.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    forget about it

    take up a hobbie, join a club, learn a language, do some stuff you wanted to do but couldn't, take advantage of being single and not having to check with someone before you decide to do something.

    do that and the getting back in the game stuff will jsut take care of itself


  • #3
    Xiney
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,085 ✭✭✭Xiney


    go travelling on your own, if you can't afford it do a tefl course and go teach english in asia for a year.

    pick up a hobby, meet new people through it.

    make a list of books you've been meaning to read and read them. similarly classic films.

    go on a road trip at the weekend. spontaneous.

    Just try not to drink too much or take drugs - some people go a little wild in this vulnerable emotional space and end up causing damage to themselves :)


  • #4
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Yup - agree with Xiney on this totally.
    You are just out of a 9 yr stint - you need to take the time to rediscover yourself after this.

    Find out what makes you tick - use this opp to learn new skill - do new activities. Hopefully you will have a ball and before you know it the new confident you will find someone.

    Just rushing out to meet someone now - to me sounds like a very bad idea. You still have too much baggage and chances are you will either meet a really dodgy person or will just mess someone else up as your brain continues to readjust...


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