What is normal amount of sex?

LegacyUser

What is the normal amount of times per day/per week that a young couple should be having sex (mid to late 20s)?

Nevyn

There is no set number there are a whole range of factors from if they are living together,
how many hours they work, if they work shift patterns, what their sex drives are like.

If this is an issue for you in your relationship you need to find a non confrontational non pressurising way to try and talk to you partner about it.

LegacyUser

i often wonder about that myself. Only once a week for me right now, living with partner, seems very little..

Tar.Aldarion

People have different sex drives for different reasons. Mine is very high so I would every day but some people just don't feel like it apart from once a week or whatever. It is difficult when you are very different in the sex drive field with a partner, it can feel like it is your fault, but it's not something that I'd worry about too much any more. Hugging is much better. :-p

hobochris

Id say anything from 3-4 times a day to twice week is normal for a couple living together.

It depends on whats going on in your lives , tiredness and stress levels.

yeah you both have to be going at the same speed otherwise you spin out of control !

blondie7

depends some people dont have high sex drives and once a month could be enough for them, while others have high sex drives and do it 3/4 times a day. whatever works for ye is what is important, once ye are both happy with yer sex life.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

What is the normal amount of times per day/per week that a young couple should be having sex (mid to late 20s)?

Hi OP.

It depends on two factors. Each partner's sex drive, and how sexually stimulating each finds each other. These are not necessarily running in parallel. There is a lot more to relationships than just sex and sexual attraction.

As someone above said, each partner can have a different sex drive, but also one partner may be more sexually stimulated by the other partner than vice versa.

It is really important not to be worried i the least by what other people are doing. The range is so enormous that it is pointless.

What is important is to pay attention to each other. To find a balance that satisfies both of you. Enough for the higher sexed partner and not too much for the undersexed partner... (using the term in a lose way)

All he best.

deise48

maybe two to three times a week for a average couple id reckon

Dublin141

Jeez, I'd love to have that much time alone with my OH to do it 3-4 times a day We used to do it every day before we moved in together.

We were only talking about this today, we don't have any time alone together because of the children. We're both young and it's a bit embarrassing how little we have sex. We're thinking about getting a babysitter just so we can get a room for a couple of hours - how sad is that?!

But...everyone is different, some people would feel okay with once a month while others feel icky if they don't do it once a day. I enjoy sex but I'm okay going without it (maybe because I've gotten used to it?) until I remember how long it's been since the last time and then I'm like okay that's it we're staying up late tonight. :rolleyes:

I don't think there is any normal when it comes to sex, what works for one doesn't work for another.

philologos

Unregistered wrote: »

What is the normal amount of times per day/per week that a young couple should be having sex (mid to late 20s)?

OP: Do you really expect a clear answer on this question?

Some people will tell you that no sex should be had until marriage.
Some people will tell you that it is something special that should only happen rarely.
Others will tell you that it is just a normal bodily biological function like eating and sleeping and as much as you want is pretty much the answer.

This is a question that you need to think about. I'd personally hold to the first, many would differ with me. It's something you need to think about for yourself I guess.

PinkTulips

depends, we have 3 very young kids so it can vary from every second night to not for a couple of weeks depending on what's going on/how knackered we are/etc.

as long as both parties are content with the amount it doesn't matter if it's 5 times a day or five times a decade, it's their business. it's only if there's a marked differance in libidos that problems arise and then you compromise, compromise, compromise

Carsinian Thau

The normal amount is the number of times that you both want to do it.

Every couple is different.

PinkTulips

Jakkass wrote: »

OP: Do you really expect a clear answer on this question?

Some people will tell you that no sex should be had until marriage.
Some people will tell you that it is something special that should only happen rarely.
Others will tell you that it is just a normal bodily biological function like eating and sleeping and as much as you want is pretty much the answer.

This is a question that you need to think about. I'd personally hold to the first, many would differ with me. It's something you need to think about for yourself I guess.

jakkass.... the OP could be married for all you know so cut out the condecending nonsense.

if you have moral issues with sex then don't feel the need to preach on a thread asking for advice, the OP is clearly having some issues in his relationship and doesn't need a moral discussion on whether he should be having sex or not, clearly he's made that life choice happily already as has his partner, he didn't ask 'should i be having sex', he asked how much sex is normal in a relationship'.... worlds of differance.

philologos

I'm not. I merely said people will differ with eachother, and that it is up for the OP and his / her partner to decide and think about, and I wish them the best of luck with it

VaioCruiser

Jakkass wrote: »

I'm not. I merely said people will differ with eachother, and that it is up for the OP and his / her partner to decide and think about, and I wish them the best of luck with it

Your post was a very fair post imho. It's all about opinions.

All the best

Nevyn

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