Another one bites the dust?

LegacyUser

OK so... need a bit of advice.


A quick history first would help:

Luke is a good friend of a few lads I'm good friends with. A while ago me and Luke started texting...he was always quite forward, in some sense he has real low self esteem but would text me a lot. I'm a bit shy I guess, a bit reserved and cautious and I wouldn't ever say I liked someone until quite a while.

Anyway, to cut a long story short..me and Luke have ended up spending quite a bit of time together over the last week or so cause the parents of my friend who lives down the road went away. Literally just hanging around the house. But he'd always sit beside me...purposely talk to me etc.

My friend had a party... (dont judge me, feel like a right wally already) I ended up getting pretty drunk me and luke kissed quite a bit finally...big fight with my parents, dramatic night...ended up saying to Luke I liked him (he asked me) but I got real jealous cause i thought he was flirting with my mate.

He was real off with me the next day... didnt text me at all etc etc..which wasn't the norm for him. After a while I confronted him...and he said that after that night he saw me in a different way. Basically it was all too much drama, and I was too forward. I kinda explained that thats not really me... just too much drink and that I was sorry it all happened.


I'm really upset I managed to **** everything up cause he was really nice. Any way I can redeem myself? Is it a case of that night is still so fresh and it might blow over?

We got on very well but in some ways it was a case of the chase was still on and I gave in to quick. Any way of sort of proving... listen buddy, whatever you think... you don't actually have me yet?

Blazer

The worst people you can go out with are people with low esteem.(not incl the usual scum like wife beaters etc as some one will point out)
They have a habit of making everything to be your fault when it's clearly their fault. Gradually they wear you down and you yourself suffer from low esteem.
And besides..after treating you like that the morning after screw him.

My advice: Forget about him and move on. Believe me ..you're much better off in the long run.

LegacyUser

but it is my fault... i acted too forward, like a tosser and I was all jealous when we'd only just kissed

dblennon

Couldn't agree more he finally gets a chance to know how you really feel and you even tell him!!!

So He runs a mile, cause he can't handle it. what an ass.

run a mile from this guy (i never give advise like that, but he is infuriating to all normal men)

Cassiopeia1

I don't think that Luke is the only one with a low self-esteem! You drank too much as you were nervous with anticipation. You made a mistake,you apologised, that is enough redemption for anyone. Don't wrack yourself with guilt. Life must go on.
If Luke were a true friend, he would forgive you for your failings and even find time in the future to have joke about it.
If you have already text an apology, then just leave it, take a deep breath and tell yourself that you have learnt a valuable lesson.Whatever you do, don't chase after him. He will not repect you.If Luke realises that you are the great person that you are -well and good. If not, maybe he is not the person you thought he was!

Good luck..and remember to value yourself:)

LegacyUser

Cassiopeia1 wrote: »

Good luck..and remember to value yourself:)

I would, but it's almost like... I'm alright to look at but there's nothing overly individual on the inside

Cassiopeia1

Why would you say that!!???? You are loved for what is inside. Your problem is not Luke.....your problem is you!
If you learn to love and respect yourself then everyone else will follow suit! You need to build your self-esteem, or there will be other 'Lukes' and drunken nights. Wake up tomorrow and start your 'new' life. Check out sites on how to build your self-esteem. Life is too precious and short to waste on regret ( and Lukes!!').

LegacyUser

Cause I'm nineteen...and no guy has ever liked me for more then a few weeks. There's obviously something about me, not them.

Without sounding like an idiot...me and Luke just got on so well and I was too full on! I even get freaked out when someone acts that full on. I don't blame him like

Dublin141

I think Luke might be a bit of an arsehole. :rolleyes: Maybe I didn't read into it right but it sounds like he is one of those people who likes the chase. You both kissed then he basically used an excuse to move on. A friend wouldn't do that if they liked you or not. It doesn't sound like he wants anything substantial. So what if you made a mistake, one mistake doesn't take away from everything else you have to give. If he knows you then he knows that was unlike you. I just think that if he was interested then he would give it a fair chance instead of putting blame on you. Forward? Why didn't he say that at the time instead of taking advantage of it. You deserve something better than that.

LegacyUser

Maybe it's better to get a bit hurt now...then very hurt in the future....

I'm sick of guys

LegacyUser

ur sick of guys at 19 ? hahaha

hmmm i wouldn't worry about it. if he acts like this meh - so what his loss.

one tip thou - don't go naming people on websites - u never know who is reading

shellyboo

All this "too full on" crap is just that... crap. If a guy truly likes you there is no such thing as 'too full on'. Anything you do will seem charming and wonderful. Seriously.

It seems he's just a bit of a knob.