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LegacyUser

Just a quick one, would like others opinion. Met a great girl a few months back. Went out for a while kissing etc. nothing serious, she was just out of a long term relationship and didn't want anything serious. Fair enough!
So she said we should only be friends, fine i said.
We met up last week had anice drink, everything fine.
Texted her tuesday to see i she fancied meeting up after work as i was going to be around anyway.
No reply, rang her a couple of hours later...No answer, finally texted her again the next day just to make sure she was ok, and get "im cool, too busy to reply yesterday"
Is it just me or is this fairly rude, I mean its not the first time shes done this but before she was in a bad place which she seems to have recovered from now.
Might seem trivial but it really irritates me and i've told her so in the past....I really like her but i mean
guess i just want toask if i should read anyting into this or should i just forget it and stop tryna contact her

shellyboo

Well, sometimes people ARE too busy to reply. And it's a bit of a drag when people are all, "OMG, why didn't you text me back?"

Unfortunately, OP, if I was getting text messages from a guy I really liked I wouldn't give a monkey's what I was doing or how busy I was, I'd text him back. She doesn't really seem all that keen, so I'd move on if I were you.

ciagr297

have to agree with shellyboo here.

if i am interested in a guy and he is texting me.....i will be replying

on a side point, this sort of not replying rubbish drives me demented. esp after you went to the trouble of ringing her. now thats just rude

LegacyUser

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Just a quick one, would like others opinion. Met a great girl a few months back. Went out for a while kissing etc. nothing serious, she was just out of a long term relationship and didn't want anything serious. Fair enough!
So she said we should only be friends, fine i said.
We met up last week had anice drink, everything fine.
Texted her tuesday to see i she fancied meeting up after work as i was going to be around anyway.
No reply, rang her a couple of hours later...No answer, finally texted her again the next day just to make sure she was ok, and get "im cool, too busy to reply yesterday"
Is it just me or is this fairly rude, I mean its not the first time shes done this but before she was in a bad place which she seems to have recovered from now.
Might seem trivial but it really irritates me and i've told her so in the past....I really like her but i mean
guess i just want toask if i should read anyting into this or should i just forget it and stop tryna contact her

Yeah shes being rude. Let it go man, walk away. Nobody is worth throwing your dignity away over.

icanchange49

classic case here of meeting somebody who's on the rebound. what usually happens here is - probably without meaning to - this girl will use you to help her recover her self-esteem, brush herself down and relaunch. unfortunately she will associate you with all that bad stuff that she is trying to get over and will leave you behind with it when she moves - usually very abruptly - on. you'll get no thanks so save yourself some pain and disengage now!

sorry....

Oh The Humanity

Rude and also she doesn't see you as important enough to have basic manners.

In a nutshell, cut your losses and move on.

You are worth better.

LegacyUser

I agree with shellyboo - she is not interested,, if she was interested she would make time to send a txt,, or ans and say "sorry cant talk now but ill ring you later k"
- dont waste your time on people who arent willing to waste their time on you -

LegacyUser

Yeah id agree, only thing is she was the one who asked me out for a drink last week, dunno just very confused, wondering is there a small chance that she does like me but is just afraid of getting into something.
As ye said though i think i was just the rebound guy and now that shes feeoing better im no more use.....live and learn i suppose.

rallye

Yeah shes not interested, move on.

Your only going to push her further away if you keep contacting her, a fav quote of mine is "everything we chase in life runs away"..

Monkey61

Yeah it is a bit rude, but to be honest just because a text message is instant, it doesn't mean that people are under an obligation to reply instantly. There is nothing more irritating then to not have gotten around to replying to someone and to have them phone and then text again wanting to know why you haven't replied. That could also be thought of as kind of rude.

If she didn't reply to your first text, you should have just presumed that she was busy/ away somewhere, wasn't around and didn't want to meet up and left it at that. My best friend often doesn't have her phone with her, or credit. If I text her asking if she wants to meet me after work and she hasn't replied by the time work is over, then I can presume that she either has no credit to reply or is away somewhere and that we are not meeting anyway. No hassle and she'll text to let me know what happened whenever she is around/has credit etc.

Look you are not very close friends with this girl. You are a guy that fancies her and she is probably worried that if she sees you too much that you will get the wrong idea, or that you are only wanting to be friends with her to try and push for something more at some stage. Just because she said that you should be friends does not mean that she wants to see you every week. I'd say leave her to it. It is always difficult negotiating a friendship out of a dating type scenario and considering that you were the one who wanted more, you kind of have to take a back seat now and just see how it pans out.