Chasing love

LegacyUser

male - 23 years old

recently went on holidays

met this wonderful girl. she was beautiful, we instantly hit it off, exact same hobbies, down to a tee

problem was i had a girlfriend, i was bringing her up to her hotel room which was an awkward lift ride 10 floors up, (we were both fueled with drink btw) the sexual tension was crazy we didnt kiss however even though i was mad to, well the next day i was going home and we exchanged numbers

we text and talked on the internet for a bit (we never ran out of things to talk about, in person or text) and we got around to talking about our future ambitions, she said three things she hoped to achieve, they were the exact things i wanted to achieve also.

i later found out that she also wanted to kiss me and i am regretting that i did not take the chance but i could never have done that to the OH, but now we are broken up, and i have done nothing but think about my holiday girl, shes amazing, but she lives 2 and a half hours away, i really think this could be something special buttttt, i dunno

i really dont know what i am looking for here, it just feels like heartbreak ever since i left and i needed to get this out

Silverfish

2 and a half hours away isn't really that long. It takes some people I know that long to get home from work some evenings.

You have to give this a go at least, or else it'll be 'what if?' for the rest of your life.

finbarrk

I can't understand how you didn't go to bed with her. You are only 23, it would be natural to.

shellyboo

Sooo... you're single, and she's single, and you felt a connection... and you're now waiting for what, exactly? Ask her out! Quickly, before she moves on.

cathygeiser

Come on, what are u waiting for? If you think you guys are fit. Chasing. We want to hear from u the good news.


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ManOfMystery

What have you go to lose? You're young, free and single now. Why not go and see her this weekend?

ginakate

awwweee!! Go see her!! Go see her!! You have nothing to loose and i bet there wont even be an awkard moment when you do see her! I live 2 and a half hours away from my boyfriend too [ soon to be the opposite side of the world! another thread!] but do go see her at the weekend and make sure you write and tell us what happens! please:):)

irish_goat

You have absolutely nothing to lose from going to see her. Do it.

Eve_Dublin

Do you mean 2 and half hours away by plane or by car? What I'm asking is she in Ireland or not??

If she's in Ireland, ABOLUTELY GO FOR IT, OP. Believe me when I say it's not often you have a connection like that with someone and it should always be pursued if you're both single or else you'll be kicking yourself years down the line. It's always a gamble but that's love.

If she's in a different country, this could be trickier but not impossible....

LegacyUser

cathygeiser wrote: »

Come on, what are u waiting for? If you think you guys are fit. Chasing. We want to hear from u the good news.

you're right im going up to see her this weekend and i cannot wait, i think i'll bring her somewhere where there is a lift and kiss her in it, cheesy i know but i'm hoping she'll love it lol

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Do you mean 2 and half hours away by plane or by car? What I'm asking is she in Ireland or not??

yes she's irish lives a bit further up the country then i do but ye're all right i have nothing to lose, i'd really like to thank everyone for helping me and i will let you all know how the weekend goes

LegacyUser

finbarrk wrote: »

I can't understand how you didn't go to bed with her. You are only 23, it would be natural to.

natural to ? natural to screw over his girlfriend for a holiday f**k? are u for real ? Just because u are driven by your animal urges don't assume we all are. For once someone came on here and actually said how they decent thing and now has a chance he really wants and u call him unnatural ?? grow up

u sound like a decent guy. 2.5hours is nothing. go for it!

LegacyUser

While I hope your ex is not too upset you did behave with some respect for her. There are many who wouldn't have did what you did. I hope it all works out for you although driving that distance for a relationship, while manageable, is still tough no matter what people say and it can wear you down eventually :-(

legend365

Good luck aimgo

Eve_Dublin

legend365 wrote: »

Good luck aimgo

...and will you let us know how you get on? I'm an absolute sucker for romance!

LegacyUser

i will indeed eve it would be my pleasure after your help and everyone elses, thanks so much guys

finbarrk

Unregistered wrote: »

natural to ? natural to screw over his girlfriend for a holiday f**k? are u for real ? Just because u are driven by your animal urges don't assume we all are. For once someone came on here and actually said how they decent thing and now has a chance he really wants and u call him unnatural ?? grow up

u sound like a decent guy. 2.5hours is nothing. go for it!

2.5 hours is nothing, go for it!
He should have gone for it when at the bedroom door. Opportunities like that shouldn't be turned down.
Hope it works out for the op anyway.

VaioCruiser

finbarrk wrote: »

2.5 hours is nothing, go for it!
He should have gone for it when at the bedroom door. Opportunities like that shouldn't be turned down.
Hope it works out for the op anyway.

Yes indeed. He should have acted at the time and I hope it is not too late.

All the best.

Terodil

I can't believe people are saying that he should deliberately have cheated on his then-gf. That would have been scumbag behaviour. (And that coming from people who always hold up the cardboard sign of 'nobody is perfect', 'you need to forgive' etc... why doesn't this surprise me :rolleyes: )

OP, you did the honourable thing.

Now that you're single again, go for it. Fast. (As long as you're sure that you aren't rebounding, because that would probably cause her a lot of pain down the line.)

Edit/PS: Yeah the distance is nothing. At least you're in the same country -- best of luck

LegacyUser

i'd just like to tell you all that i am in an internet cafe in her home town waiting for her to finish her shift off at work

this is definitely not a rebound, trust me i have a gut feeling

thanks everyone

LegacyUser

Good Luck!! Let us know how it goes

LegacyUser

op here again

just to let you all know i had the weekend of my life and we are going to try meet up every two weeks, it was so great to see her again, i really think this could be the start of something big

thanks boardsies

murnettie

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, thats lovely