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Suicidal ex?

  • 28-07-2009 3:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Right well I was seeing this lad for a couple of months and well things were alright but I dunno I just felt as if things werent working out so I said it was over end of anyways recently he has started to text me saying I want to get back with you and all this I wasnt really sure what to say now hes saying stuff about suicide and I dunno whether to take him seirously. One of his friends took their own lives and I wouldnt put it past him I'm not sure what to do really anyone have advice?


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Point him in the direction of professional help and take a huge step backwards.


  • #3
    Gary ITR
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,801 ✭✭✭✭Gary ITR


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Point him in the direction of professional help and take a huge step backwards.

    QFT

    You have zero responsibility to this guy and if he does want to off himself then you can be sure there's a lot more to it than being dumped by a girl he's been seeing for a few months


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    He would never get professional help and I mean never and for there being other things I really dont know hes foolish but I know he could do something foolish and I really don't want to be held responsible


  • #5
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    You will not be considered responsible should he follow through with it.

    If someone is going to commit suicide it is no-one elses fault. He is trying to manipulate you with guilt.

    Please do not react or respond to his texts because he will pull you in more and more.

    I know its hard but you have to ignore him. Sorry you are going through this.


  • #6
    Gary ITR
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,801 ✭✭✭✭Gary ITR


    Unregistered wrote: »
    He would never get professional help and I mean never and for there being other things I really dont know hes foolish but I know he could do something foolish and I really don't want to be held responsible

    Tell him you are going to speak to a member of his family if he keeps talking about suicide.

    Other than that I would advise you to contact him as little as possible


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Has he said this to anyone else ?
    Are there any sensible mutual friends you could tell about this who might help him ?
    cos maybe this guy needs someone's support all right. U absolutely are not responsible for his actions - lets get that straight first. But i get the impression like you care enough about they guy to want to help if you could? But it just doens't seem like you are in the right position to help him because he is fixated on you. Maybe getting a level headed mutual friend to support would be something you could do to help whilst keeping your distance. Maybe it might make things worse. You know best yourself. If you absolutely think he is an IMMEDIATE danger to himself you could call the gardai. but again if its not quite at that crisis stage yet then that could also make things worse. again you know him best.

    I guess - on balance do you think he is saying this as an attempt to manipulate you ? Or do you think its more that he's really down for real reasons and ur just someone he trusts ?


  • #8
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    as others have said, you are not responsible for this guys actions.

    i would strongly advise you to tell a member if his family, rather than a mutual friend. tell him by text that you have contacted his family, and then back away.

    do not get further sucked into texting or any other contact.

    there is a chance this guy is using this in an attempt to manipulate you, which is despicable behaviour, imo.

    if you give into it and end up getting back with him, you will end up in this pattern of behaviour forever more, afraid to say boo to him in case he threatens suicide again.


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