GF and I like someone in work. HELP!!

LegacyUser

hi all. recently i started a new job in a large retail store, which has been a welcome addition to my life. for the last to years ive been with my girlfriend who i quite literally the girl of my dreams (very well educated,funny, fun loving, and quite simply beautyful). so i suppose you could say i have it pretty sweet.

when i started my new job i was settleing in quite well when on the third day a girl came over and said hey. we talked fot roughly ten minutes about trivial things, ie where are you from? name? school? ect...

over the last week or so we've talked quite a bit and have been semi-flirting. i find myself going out of the way to find her just to say hello. we havnt had lunch yet as our lunches always differ but we talk quite a bit. all the while myy girlfriend who i love with all my heart remains oblivious and im starting to feel quite guilty, almost asthough im cheating.

im still not sure if she likes me or not, maybe shes just being nice.

please help, what should i do??

thanks guys!

Otis Driftwood

It sounds like you have a bit of a crush is all OP.It happens.Once you dont act on it then you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.If its a case you dont trust yourself around this girl then spend less time with her.Simple really,and its not the end of the world either.

Ellsbells

Grow up and stop trying to woo her.... You have a gf who, by the soudns of it, will be snapped up as soon as you break up. Either treasure and respect her or let her go... Your choice.

DaveMaC

Your glands have taken over for a bit -Dont worry man, it'll pass. someday soon you're going to look at the new girl and think "what the F^ck was i thinking"?, and you'll be real glad you didnt do anything to screw things up with your girlfriend. In the meantime -just dont get pissed and make a pass at her. And everytime you think you'd like to shag her -take it home to your girlfriend.

R.D. aka MR.D

Just because a girl is nice to you doesn't mean she likes to you.

I've worked loads in retail and I love chatting to my co-workers, especially the new ones. I have a long term boyfriend and i would be absolutely mortified to think one of those guys thought i liked them!

Seriously though you need to examine your feelings for your girlfriend and if your thinking about cheating then let her go because by the sounds of it she deserves better.

Crushes are fine but if your considering taking it further, best to take a step back.

VaioCruiser

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hi all. recently i started a new job in a large retail store, which has been a welcome addition to my life. for the last to years ive been with my girlfriend who i quite literally the girl of my dreams (very well educated,funny, fun loving, and quite simply beautyful). so i suppose you could say i have it pretty sweet.

when i started my new job i was settleing in quite well when on the third day a girl came over and said hey. we talked fot roughly ten minutes about trivial things, ie where are you from? name? school? ect...

over the last week or so we've talked quite a bit and have been semi-flirting. i find myself going out of the way to find her just to say hello. we havnt had lunch yet as our lunches always differ but we talk quite a bit. all the while myy girlfriend who i love with all my heart remains oblivious and im starting to feel quite guilty, almost asthough im cheating.

im still not sure if she likes me or not, maybe shes just being nice.

please help, what should i do??

thanks guys!

Hi OP. First of all relax !!! Stop stressing about all of this. It's natural to enjoy the company of a pretty girl at work.

Read some of the other recent threads about this situation and you will read some good replies.

At work our colleagues are on the BEST behaviour and always happy and in good humour and generally up. It makes us all more attractive when we are at work.

What you need is some perspective. This is work - not REALITY :cool:

So continue to enjoy her company and her conversation. But remember that it is not real. And go home after work and enjoy the real life greatness of your girlfriend.

All the best !

Bubblefett

Remember, just cause you've a girlfriend doesn't mean you automatically stop getting crushes!
Everyone's said it above, but none the less: it'll pass! Stop tying yourself in knots!