A little AFFECTION

InTouch

Hi, my boyfriend works in a company where the part time staff by this stage would be gone, recession etc, so he works long hours. He hasn't been around this past while really at all. And I mean at all, he spends all his time at his job and when he's home it's to sleep a bit and then get his shirts and uniforms together then he goes again and it'll be "see you at 4 in the morning sweetie".

Last night when he came home I decided to go up and have a little shower, get into a sexy little satin dress and pranced down the stairs to him and sat on his knee. He didn't even look at me. He said he was tired and "please don't", keeping his eyes on the television. So I just said "goodnight" and it was off to bed with me. Putting it down to tiredness this morning we woke up and i leaned in to hug him , he didn't do anything, not even put his arm around me but instead said "don't get too comfortable honey I'm going off to work soon". It's been over three weeks since we have done anything, all because he pushed me away every time, and made no advances to me.

He's been behaving oddly these past few days... in fact weeks.

Male insight please.

Micilin Muc

InTouch wrote: »

Hi, my boyfriend works in a company where the part time staff by this stage would be gone, recession etc, so he works long hours. He hasn't been around this past while really at all. And I mean at all, he spends all his time at his job and when he's home it's to sleep a bit and then get his shirts and uniforms together then he goes again and it'll be "see you at 4 in the morning sweetie".

Last night when he came home I decided to go up and have a little shower, get into a sexy little satin dress and pranced down the stairs to him and sat on his knee. He didn't even look at me. He said he was tired and "please don't", keeping his eyes on the television. So I just said "goodnight" and it was off to bed with me. Putting it down to tiredness this morning we woke up and i leaned in to hug him , he didn't do anything, not even put his arm around me but instead said "don't get too comfortable honey I'm going off to work soon". It's been over three weeks since we have done anything, all because he pushed me away every time, and made no advances to me.

He's been behaving oddly these past few days... in fact weeks.

Male insight please.

He could feel guilty about working so much, not least stressed.

herya

If he's really tired of work and crazy hours he might be so down that sex is the last thing on his mind (a state known as work zombie). Tough situation! Does he have weekends off or any time when he has a day or two to unwind?

Xiney

Honestly, he's working very very hard. He just doesn't have the energy to be affectionate. It's hard but it's something you're going to have to accept for the time being.

What he might appreciate is a foot rub, or a back massage or something to ease the tension he is no doubt feeling.


Working this hard isn't good for him but it seems like he has no choice. Be as supportive as you can.