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Falling for a friend

  • 25-07-2009 1:05pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hello everyone,

    i'm pretty sure this type of post has been up many many times...but yes, i've gone and done it...i've fallen for my mate.

    got to know eachother over past 6 months, both abroad,lots in common and have a great laugh. He's always had his gfriend, and that was defo not any prob from the beginning, i knew that, and honestly didnt care much until recently...when he started talking about her coming for a longer visit of a few weeks and maybe moving over.

    i have no idea if he feels anything for me, my guess is that he doesnt since he's obsessed with this girl and he doesnt seem to notice some of the good things about me, only that i'm his best mate type thing etc.

    this is getting me down big time because when she comes i'm going to either have to be her best friend too, or just stop hanging around with both...how can I handle this without making everything totally obvious?...


Comments

  • #2
    ginakate
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10 ✭ginakate


    Hi OP
    Sorry to hear about your suitation - your stuck between a rock and a hard place my dear.
    You sound like you've been dropped into the middle of the film my best friends wedding!
    I think if he is so happy with this girl leave him be, i know its hard but it is the only option - you tell him your risk loosing a friend. a good friend. is it worth that risk?
    I know it will be so hard seen them together tho and it will break your heart but just wait and see you might be stronger than you think.


  • #3
    Mulan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 240 ✭✭Mulan


    Tell him. He's a bloke, he'll be ok about it. You wont loose a friend. Its never going to be the same anyway so go for it.


  • #4
    myusernameis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43 ✭myusernameis


    i dont know i probably wouldnt say anything. Even though he may like you, he might blame you after if he thinks you're trying to break him and his girlfriend up. Although its painful (i'm kinda in the same predicament) it will hopefully get easier in time. Best of luck.


  • #5
    Red Alert
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 7,486 ✭✭✭Red Alert


    Tell him, but be warned that he may only like you as a mate. Do this only once, unless circumstances change. Otherwise you'll waste your time on it, experience talking here.


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