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Why do I want to break up with my perfect boyfriend?

LegacyUser · 2009-07-25 08:01:49

My boyfriens is perfect!! he really is a great guy!anywhere we go some1 know him or has heard of him cos he is so "great".... he doesnt have a bad bone in his body!!he is kind, caring, considerate, fun!everything some 1 should want! I dont know why really but I want to break up with him. I realise I sound stupid and cruel…

25-07-2009 8:01am

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My boyfriens is perfect!!

he really is a great guy!anywhere we go some1 know him or has heard of him cos he is so "great"....

he doesnt have a bad bone in his body!!he is kind, caring, considerate, fun!everything some 1 should want!

I dont know why really but I want to break up with him. I realise I sound stupid and cruel but when it comes down to it i am so scared that we are only together because we have become so comfortable in our situation i.e being the perfet couple according to every1 we know.

I wasnt looking for it but he came along and i fell in love and i still love him. but im scared i love him as a best friend....

I cant break up with him because i know the pain it will cause him...not because im such a great girlfriend but brcause he is soooo sure and 100% in our relationship!

I know its wrong but i wish he would do something wrong so I can be angry with him and break up but as i have already mentioned he is perfect, would never do anything wrong.

I know the issue is me but how do u deliver the "its not u its me" line without bein a gob****e????

Im so confused and dont know who to talk to. thought i could always turn to my friends but even talkin about him like this feels like betrayal.

I know no 1 out there has the answer but id be interested to hear opinions, similar stories etc....

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#2 25-07-2009 8:56am

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I dont know why really but I want to break up with him. I realise I sound stupid and cruel but when it comes down to it i am so scared that we are only together because we have become so comfortable in our situation i.e being the perfet couple according to every1 we know.

You don't fancy/not sexually attracted to him simple as that. You have to bite the bullet and let him go so he can find someone who will and you find someone you fancy.

Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.

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#3 25-07-2009 9:00am

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Whatever you do, don't drag it out. Sit him down when you get the chance and be honest.

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#4 25-07-2009 9:18am

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You should just tell him. No point in stringing him along.

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#5 25-07-2009 10:50am

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there's quite a few similar threads if you look further down:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055628140

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055627611

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055629497

and I am sure there are others if you delve deeper.

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#6 25-07-2009 12:32pm

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Unregistered wrote: »

My boyfriens is perfect!!

he really is a great guy!anywhere we go some1 know him or has heard of him cos he is so "great"....

he doesnt have a bad bone in his body!!he is kind, caring, considerate, fun!everything some 1 should want!

I dont know why really but I want to break up with him. I realise I sound stupid and cruel but when it comes down to it i am so scared that we are only together because we have become so comfortable in our situation i.e being the perfet couple according to every1 we know.

I wasnt looking for it but he came along and i fell in love and i still love him. but im scared i love him as a best friend....

I cant break up with him because i know the pain it will cause him...not because im such a great girlfriend but brcause he is soooo sure and 100% in our relationship!

I know its wrong but i wish he would do something wrong so I can be angry with him and break up but as i have already mentioned he is perfect, would never do anything wrong.

I know the issue is me but how do u deliver the "its not u its me" line without bein a gob****e????

Im so confused and dont know who to talk to. thought i could always turn to my friends but even talkin about him like this feels like betrayal.

I know no 1 out there has the answer but id be interested to hear opinions, similar stories etc....

So what exactly is turning you off him? If you dont think there is anyone better out there then why leave?

A lot of people, during peiods of their relationship, are with someone because its comfortable. Love ebbs and flows and is strong at times and boring at other times but its true love when you are willing to sit out the boring times and make it work...

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#7 25-07-2009 5:36pm

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You don't love people for their qualities I'm afraid. He might be Mother Teresa and so what? If you are sure that you don't love him simply tell him so. It won't be pleasant for him but better than being strung along.

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#8 25-07-2009 6:17pm

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OP a recent thread by a girl who split with her perfect boyfriend only to bump into him years later with his twins. Regrets she has a few. Its worth a read.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055627611

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#9 25-07-2009 7:20pm

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He maybe all the tihngs you would want to settled down with as a long term prospect but if you are not happy then you need to work on yourself and you are not ready for that.

If you are not then your not and if there is not that spark there for him then there isn't and trying to force a relationship with out that is extreme folly.

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