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Problem with my wife: She or Me or Us

  • 25-07-2009 6:28am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi,

    I have got two issues in my relationship with my wife.

    1) Recently I am feeling really like to cheat my wife and started think about the ways of how to do it and with whom.

    I am in my late twenties and we have a son who is four now. Is it a normal thing that happens at this time of an age or I am being just bad.

    2) We are a both studying at the moment. I am doing my grad.degree and she is doing a professional course. However, I need more time out of home and work in the lab and she just does not help on this. I wake him up, bring to the creche, pick him up and cook dinner, put him in a bed. Then, I potentially have no time, even I had, cannot get concentrated. Also, I pays the rent, bill and creche. We had discussed about it 10^6 time and after a week everything is back ever.

    How can I make her understand that if she does not help me our future is going to be ruined?

    Now I am just this close to get exploded.... please help


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Unregistered wrote: »

    1) Recently I am feeling really like to cheat my wife and started think about the ways of how to do it and with whom.

    I am in my late twenties and we have a son who is four now. Is it a normal thing that happens at this time of an age or I am being just bad.

    What the hell??? You are just being bad, selfish and childish... Its nothing to do with age.
    Unregistered wrote: »
    2) We are a both studying at the moment. I am doing my grad.degree and she is doing a professional course. However, I need more time out of home and work in the lab and she just does not help on this. I wake him up, bring to the creche, pick him up and cook dinner, put him in a bed. Then, I potentially have no time, even I had, cannot get concentrated. Also, I pays the rent, bill and creche. We had discussed about it 10^6 time and after a week everything is back ever.

    I guess from your post that you are not Iish and am curious if you are both from different cultures. Is she from a culture where the husband provides for his family?

    There are more things needing to be done in a family home and Ill guess she is doing those - cleaning, washing etc while you are doing the other share of the chores - is thsi right?
    Unregistered wrote: »
    How can I make her understand that if she does not help me our future is going to be ruined?

    OP this is life. Its not always the way you want it. Its marriage and its not always pretty but your alternative is to cheat on your wife?? For what purpose - to teach her a lesson?
    Unregistered wrote: »
    Now I am just this close to get exploded.... please help

    Talk to her again and tell her how it is affecting you. Take separate days for dinner and collecting the child and you do not do it unless its your day.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP cheating on your wife is not going to help this situation at all. You are still going to have the same problems you have now.

    I don't understand how you think this could be. In fact it sounds liek you are doing it out of resentment more then anything.

    If you feel like you are overburdened with the care of your son you need to speak to her about it. To be honest your son is both of your responsibilities and it sounds like you are both busy but the things you do with him listed there are not exactly unreasonable things to expect a father to do with a child. You can't expect her to look after him solely, especially as she's studying too.


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