Bad week..

LegacyUser

Been with my bf seven months. We usually get on great we're really well suited but a few things get to me..I find he doesn't really remember everything (or much!) I say to him..he'll ask me a million times what days i'm working in a week, or til what time (they change every week) Since I've met him I've always had thursdays off, yet every week he still asks me am I free any days. It gets to me because after a month or so I had a rough idea of nights he was never free and nights he usually was (not from being obsessive or anything, you just get to know these things!)

..Anyway this came to a head this week. Was out with him on saturday, arranged to meet up tuesday. Called him monday night just to sort out a time. He had completely forgotten and had gone up to work at this voluntary summer camp thing he does the odd weekend (it's not rostered or anything, just something he can go up to if he's needed and doesn't have anything else on) As soon as he told me where he was, he goes "oh yea we were meant to meet up tomorrow weren't we?" I was just shocked! If he'd let me know he couldn't make it on tuesday because he was needed there or something then I wouldn't mind, it's happened before and I totally understand, but he just completely forgot and it really hurt!!

After realising he forgot he arranged to meet up on sunday instead, I said yes then remembered my gran might be coming over and I havn't seen her in MONTHS! So I said I wasn't sure about the afternoon yet, but could see him in the evening definitely. Saw him yesterday. He tells me he's going up to the summer camp again on sunday. I said that we were meant to be meeting up, and he said he thought i'd said I couldn't (this is typical of things that happen with us, I think he just doesn't listen properly half the time!?) Ok, one day fair enough but he knew I wasn't happy. Texting him today says he'll pop in to see me in work, shows up carrying a bag. I ask what the bags for, and he says "oh I'm heading up to the camp, my friends picking me up here in a bit" Was a bit surprised, asked how long he'd be up there til, he says wednesday??! I was in work so couldn't talk properly about it, but I just didn't know what to think, and when he left I realised I was really upset. What makes it worse is that I'm going on holidays next saturday and won't see him for a week then too.

At the same time as all of this he tells me how much he loves me etc. I end up feeling in the wrong, like yesterday- I was still upset with him and was a in a bad mood basically, he's being all lovey dovey (ignoring what had happened about tuesday). He cops that i'm still upset with him, and says sorry like it fixes everything..then I feel horrible for just making things strained between us and not being able to get over it...

What does everyone think??.. I need to have a chat with him because it's wrecking my head, but I don't know what to say? I've probably made him sound horrible..but it's the first time this has actually happened, but if I didn't remind him about stuff it'd probably happen more x

AJG

I'd agree its a little insensitive of him to forget these things. Maybe you'd could encourage him to put reminders on his phone as he seems a bit scatty.

The one thing you must remember is that its only a voluntary summer camp and its not like he's going on the piss or anything. I volunteer a good bit and those things tend to be last minute affairs. People can ring you at the last minute to attend and because its young kids that go on these trips its hard to turn down as you wouldn't want to see them disappointed because they couldn't go (as there has to be a certain adult/kid ratio for insurance purposes).

LegacyUser

He could be taking the 'treat them mean, keep them keen aproach' but it sounds more likely that in his head he's still living the single life. Hmmm....