New gf...seems overly interested in sex

LegacyUser

Ok Ok I know...what an issue eh??

Met a girl a few weeks ago..we get on great..both separated with kids so not exactly 'young'...we have seen lots of each other but...

Main basis of relationship on HER behalf appears to be getting me in bed....now dont get me wrong I LOVE it but.......I would also like more than just sex..I want to get to know her better...we have been out pub, cinema, walks etc I have even met her kids..but conversations always end up with what she wants to do to / with me...

She also appears overly keen on ME at a very early stage whereas I just want us to have fun together....in and out of bed..

Previous gfs have not seemed SO keen on sex...should I just roll with it and see what happens :-)

Locamon

She seems pretty normal to me -only going out a few weeks and you seem to be doing quite a bit and maybe... having fun!!

Roll with it... if this is an issue after three months might be something to think about then.

ladymarmalade

Perhaps her marriage was a sexless one as often happens and she is making up for lost time/ getting her self-confidence back ?:)

Nevyn

or depending on her age the human female sex drive increases in the late 30s.

girltalk

It is early days and if you have met her kids, then it is moving quite fast. You are both consenting adults so sex is fun, so roll with it and enjoy having fun. Maybe she hasn't been in a sexual relationship for a while and is enjoying the lustful feelings she is having at the mo. It dosent mean she is not interested in you apart from the sex, she wouldnt be going walking or the cinema with you if all she wanted was your body. Lighten up and enjoy the ride!

Rb

ladymarmalade wrote: »

Perhaps her marriage was a sexless one as often happens and she is making up for lost time/ getting her self-confidence back ?:)

Sounds like that could be it.

It appears you rock her boat OP, ride it out (excuse the pun) and enjoy it while it lasts, there's plenty of time for the serious relationship after all

RealistSpy

You should count yourself lucky mate! In few months time you might wish you have this time back.

faith3

individual people have individual levels of libido / sex drive... my advice would be to take it as a compliment, and enjoy and explore it as much as you can. it's certainly not something to worry about... it's only if it's something you are not interested in doing or uncomfortable about that makes it something necessary to talk about. as far as i can see it, she spends time with you socially, personally (out for walks), quietly (films), and with her family, and she is hot for you physically. sounds all good, really! when getting into a new sexual relationship, synchronising sexual drive is an initially rocky (pun unintended) area which often isn't thought about... as i say, it's something to be explored and enjoyed to fullest, and of course it's something that you should feel free to discuss if you wish... sounds like the throws of a good relationship, it's intense but thats what makes it so enjoyable.

Rb

I'd also take the chance to try out different things you haven't tried before while she's so interested in the sexual side of things btw.

Blazer

girltalk wrote: »

Lighten up and enjoy the ride!

Never was a truer word spoken

Op..older women are like this...sex drive goes way up and this is a good thing.

LegacyUser

OP here

Thanks for all replies...

You are all correct of course..
and yes she had been in a bad abusive marriage...so I suppose I'm like a bit of fresh air to her...

As for older women having a high sex drive..yes I suppose when I think about it other gfs have had too..I was basing all on my last gf who if Im honest 'just wasnt into me'and treated me horribly...

So yes enjoy the ride is indeed what I shall do lol

one last question though...how do I handle the fact that she seems to want to spend all her time with me when kids arent around (like next few days..) whereas I wish to also have my own time...(been here before and have learned the lessons..)

Cheers

petes

Unregistered wrote: »

one last question though...how do I handle the fact that she seems to want to spend all her time with me when kids arent around (like next few days..) whereas I wish to also have my own time...(been here before and have learned the lessons..)

Tell her.

Oh The Humanity

one last question though...how do I handle the fact that she seems to want to spend all her time with me when kids arent around (like next few days..) whereas I wish to also have my own time...(been here before and have learned the lessons..)

Yep, just have a chat about it.

If she was in an abusive relationship before, she will be finding this time with you very healing so bear with her.

Gently explain you need time apart for yourself, be kind but firm.

She may stress a bit not knowing where the boundaries are but she needs to learn new ways! Also if she was in a controlling relationship before she might have been expected to spend all her time with him and he may have driven family and friends away. So that is the legacy pattern she has.

Let her know its fine for her to do her own thing and she is a free person. Give her time, she will soon luxuriate in the freedom of a normal relationship!!!

:pac:

nesbitt

Unregistered wrote: »

OP here

...how do I handle the fact that she seems to want to spend all her time with me when kids arent around (like next few days..) whereas I wish to also have my own time...(been here before and have learned the lessons..)

Cheers

Have a light chat about both your plans over the next few days. Plan some time with your GF so she can look forward to seeing you but let her know that you plan to go out with your friends. Don't play games by not picking up a call etc. or just leaving her in the dark as to where you are, just be kind, straight about it all.

HashSlinging

knocks on the wall "hope she remembered to take her pill" hint hint..

Oh The Humanity

HashSlinging wrote: »

knocks on the wall "hope she remembered to take her pill" hint hint..

They both have kids already so she hardly wants to rain on her own parade with an unwanted pregnancy when she is getting great sex for the first time in years!

YT

ladymarmalade wrote: »

Perhaps her marriage was a sexless one as often happens and she is making up for lost time/ getting her self-confidence back ?:)

Rb wrote: »

Sounds like that could be it.

It appears you rock her boat OP, ride it out (excuse the pun) and enjoy it while it lasts, there's plenty of time for the serious relationship after all

I agree with the above posters.

My ex was all about him, I didn't really enjoy it with him.

When I got with my boyfriend I didn't realise it could be so good. Without wanting to be rude, there was certain things I didn't know could be enjoyable and I couldn't get enough!!

So enjoy it and let it make you feel good that you are making her feel so good!!