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"What if" guy

  • 23-07-2009 12:29am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I was with a guy 3 years- we broke up- he cheated on me and basically ripped my heart to shreads:( I met my current fiance(5+years) and we blissfully happy

    Me and that ex were still in contact and my partner knew that and didnt mind it. always txtn , meetin for coffee, i helpd him with gf probs and that was that.He told me he fell outta love with me which is why he cheated, so i always assumed there was no love there.

    now because of the economy hes been fired and has to take a less paid job in dublin.Hes ok about going- he had an emotional goodbye with his friends last night. And tonight when i met him to say bye he whispered to me "have i a reason not to go?"

    I dont know what this means? Does he still love me. I love my fiance- but ill admit this had always been my "what if?" guy


Comments

  • #2
    bronte
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,331 ✭✭✭✭bronte


    I presume he knows you are engaged.
    So he cheated on you before and now he wants to cheat WITH you?
    He sounds delightful.
    Keep well away from him.
    You can't trust him.


  • #3
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    TOTAL headwrecker. Run, run away. Just wants to know he can have you, but doesn't actually want you. Stay blissfully happy with your boyfriend.


  • #4
    ladygirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 187 ✭✭ladygirl


    totally agree with whats being said here,,, this is a power issue - he just wants to know that he can still have you,, as for cheating on you he had grass was greener syndrome - obviously it wasnt, but dont fold to him,,, if you turn back now your gonna get your heart ripped out all over again,


  • #5
    Moomoo1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,960 ✭✭✭Moomoo1


    it could be a totally innocent remark OP... I would treat it as such.


  • #6
    lala stone
    Closed Accounts Posts: 369 ✭✭lala stone


    Everyone has a "what if", "one that got away" etc,. and there is a reason ur not with that person...

    run away is right! you are so lucky now to have found someone else whom you say u are blissfully happy with! dont tempt fate!


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  • #7
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    What it means is he still loves.......HIMSELF.....he is raging you moved on and are blissfulyl happy so he had to throw a little spanner in the works.....

    Seriously, he is a sap. Steer well clear, whispering breathless nothings in your ear trying to get you to go back to adoring him and believing it was all 'fated' and 'meant to be'............b0ll0x OP

    Dont buy a word of it. Sour grapes. You can bet he is sickened you are gone and would love nothing more than to split you up from your happy ever after just to show he can, and then....he would dump you/deceive you all over again.

    Because he is a narcissistic a$$ whose one true love in life is himself.

    Totally blank him.


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