Girl question......

boogyboogy · 22-07-2009 12:41pm #1

Ok so....Right well it started 2 years ago when a girl that I never imagined would fancy me proclaimed her love for me,she was drunk so I took it with a pinch of salt but we did end up scoring each other that night and again in two weeks then due for stupid decisons on my behalf it never really got off the ground after that and ended up going into different relationships.We were always in contact though and not just pally friend stuff, half flirting/chatty (ya know not saying we were all over each other but there was always that underlying "thing/feeling" I don't know what to call it.
Anyway College finished that year I went on j1 she went working. she has since been traveling on erasmus etc until now,she was briefly home about 9 months ago where we kissed-no tongue just a kiss-but iniciated by me, and it was left that we would "talk" when she got home. She is now back in the country, we have been in touch through the usual social network sites etc over the last year or so but the only time we ever mentioned our feelings for each other for the past year it has been with drunken texts by both parties so can I really look into these or is it just the drink talking,which stopped when I deleted her number so I couldn't make an ass of myself and didn't read hers?I mean I REALLY like her I do, but what I am unsure of is if she is into me anymore and should I make the first move to get back in proper contact now she is back home?

I am from cork by the way and she lives in Rosscommon,we go to college together but at the minute I am wokring in Galway. She mentioned she is going to the galway races where I will be too, and also about 3 weeks ago said she was visting a friend in galway soon who works near me and that there should be a reunion.

The last thing I want to be in this scenerio is the guy who has trampled into friend territory.Would be a dissaster as my feelings are way beyond this. Also we have quite a few mutual friends and they have asked me about her,assuming I was talking to her?Does everyone see the attraction between us?I don't know.

What do you think guys.Option A sit tight and let her make first move.
Option B get in contact with her text,call...
Or option C hope we meet each other in the comming weeks at the mentioned events???

Thanks.

shellyboo · 22-07-2009 12:48pm

boogyboogy wrote: »

the only time we ever mentioned our feelings for each other for the past year it has been with drunken texts by both parties so can I really look into these or is it just the drink talking....

In vino veritas...

boogyboogy wrote: »

which stopped when I deleted her number so I couldn't make an ass of myself and didn't read hers?I mean I REALLY like her I do, but what I am unsure of is if she is into me anymore and should I make the first move to get back in proper contact now she is back home?.

Yes, you definitely should

Also, deleting her number was very silly. She was giving you the come on and you deleted her number? Where's the sense in that?

boogyboogy wrote: »

I am from cork by the way and she lives in Rosscommon,we go to college together but at the minute I am wokring in Galway. She mentioned she is going to the galway races where I will be too, and also about 3 weeks ago said she was visting a friend in galway soon who works near me and that there should be a reunion.

Right, so she's actively thinking of ways that she can meet up with you even though you live in another county. And that's not enough for you to know she likes you? Open your eyes!

boogyboogy wrote: »

The last thing I want to be in this scenerio is the guy who has trampled into friend territory.Would be a dissaster as my feelings are way beyond this.

If you keep her at arm's length for much longer, she's going to think you're not interested in her and it will develop into friends territory.

boogyboogy wrote: »

What do you think guys.Option A sit tight and let her make first move.
Option B get in contact with her text,call...
Or option C hope we meet each other in the comming weeks at the mentioned events???

Thanks.

OPTION B, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!! :pac:

Call her, find out when she's going to be in Galway, arrange a date. And actually say the word "date" so you're not torturing yourself anymore!

Novella · 22-07-2009 1:03pm

Just go there! What does this girl have to do?! She "proclaimed her love" for god's sake! Ok, she was drunk but seriously, a lot of people are too nervous to just come out and say how they feel when they are sober! You are torturing yourself right now with the what if's. I know what that is like and trust me, you are better off meeting up with her and telling her you really like her, always have. Even if she says she only sees you as a friend, which I think is unlikely considering what you've said, at least you'll know. Go for it and good luck! OPTION B! Let us know how it goes

MGLman · 22-07-2009 1:07pm

GO for it and see what happens, it will relieve you from thinking about right or wrong

Zangetsu · 22-07-2009 1:13pm

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Can't say it enough, go for it.

Oh The Humanity · 22-07-2009 1:56pm

For Gawds sakes lad .....what more indication are you lookin for?

She likes you!!!

So contact her and be calm and confident and clear that you like her.

Girls like a man that knows his mind and shows he likes them!!

Best of luck with it! :pac:

GirlatdRockShow · 22-07-2009 6:27pm

Go for it!! She has given you more than enough hints here!

Mrs Shankly · 23-07-2009 1:06am

Option B! You deleted her number for crying out loud, after her proclaiming her love for you! Poor girl probably thinks you're not interested, so don't wait for her to make the move. If I were in her shoes, I would take it that you weren't into me!

So, get in touch with her post haste!

Best of Luck OP!