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Moving too quickly?

  • 22-07-2009 9:22am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My bf of 6 months has just bought his first house, it will be ready to move into in about a month. Now our relationship is fantastic, I've been in 2 long-term relationships and I've never felt this way or been this sure about my feelings with anyone. So when he asked me to move in with him, while I was a little surprised, I thought it was a great idea and agreed.

    That was a bout 2 weeks ago and I've been thinking about it alot since. I'm starting to think that maybe it's a bit too soon. I know when people get into the routine of living together the spark can tend to go. I know the romantice buzz you feel at the start of a relationship doesn't last forever(tbh it's never lasted longer than 2-3 months with me) but I don't want to loose it sooner than we have to. I love him very much and I definitely want to live with him but I'm afraid that it's toon soon.

    I have lived with someone before but the buzz was long gone out of the relationship by then, in fact my heart was all but gone out of the relationship at that stage, and I broke up with him soon after.

    So I suppose my question is, has anyone here moved in with someone early in a relationship? What were your experiences? Did it make you closer.

    Would appreciate your views.

    Thanks


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  • #2
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, I reckon. If he's the one for you, moving in isn't going to damage your relationship, it will make it stronger. If it's not meant to be, it will expose the cracks all the sooner.

    I don't think moving in with someone creates any problems that aren't already underlying. But if you're worried about it, tell him so. If he's the great guy you think he is (and he seems to be a great guy) he's not going to be upset that you're a little scared.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    shellyboo wrote: »
    If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, I reckon. If he's the one for you, moving in isn't going to damage your relationship, it will make it stronger. If it's not meant to be, it will expose the cracks all the sooner.

    I don't think moving in with someone creates any problems that aren't already underlying. But if you're worried about it, tell him so. If he's the great guy you think he is (and he seems to be a great guy) he's not going to be upset that you're a little scared.

    Thanks Shellyboo.

    It's not that we might have problems, more that I don't want to lose the excitement sooner than we have too. Sometimes I just can't believe my luck in meeting someone like him and I'm afraid of changing things in case I lose him


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