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Felling Guilty for dating

  • 20-07-2009 7:12pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just looking for some advice here my GF finished with me after 6 years out of the blue about 2 months ago. So now we are just mates we hang chat etc and its all good clean fun. I still have strong feelings for her and would only love to get back together our relationship was great she finished because she is afraid of commitment as we have been going out for so long.

    Anyway my problem is I am feeling guilty about dating other women. I’m not looking for anything serious at this stage but it would be nice to go on a date and just forget about everything that’s just happened but its making me feel like I’m cheating on my ex writing this I know it sounds crazy and I shouldn’t give a sh!t but what can I do? I’m also feeling a bit guilty about asking a girl out for drinks when I know I’m not looking for anything serious is this wrong? Should I just forget about the whole think till I’m over her?

    I think the reason for all this is I’m afraid if my ex finds out that will ruin our friendship also.


Comments

  • #2
    winking weber
    Closed Accounts Posts: 117 ✭✭winking weber


    Your ex finished with and therefore has no right to be mad at you for dating someone else. It is very difficult to maintain a friendship with an ex like this so you would be better cutting off contact.


  • #3
    Astrogeek
    Closed Accounts Posts: 195 ✭✭Astrogeek


    I know how you feel. Two months is a very short space of time compared to six years. Is dating something you really want to do or something you feel you should be doing? Nothing wrong with taking a break from dating and looking out for no.1 for a while.
    Or else ease into it slowly, start flirting around. There isn't anything wrong with asking a girl for drinks when you don't want anything serious, as long as by maybe the 3rd/4th date you make it clear you aren't looking for anything serious.


  • #4
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    It's too soon, give yourself some time.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Astrogeek wrote: »
    I know how you feel. Two months is a very short space of time compared to six years. Is dating something you really want to do or something you feel you should be doing? Nothing wrong with taking a break from dating and looking out for no.1 for a while.
    Or else ease into it slowly, start flirting around. There isn't anything wrong with asking a girl for drinks when you don't want anything serious, as long as by maybe the 3rd/4th date you make it clear you aren't looking for anything serious.


    Cheers for that dating isn't really something I want to do its just the way things happened I haven't gone on the date yet or even set a date I don't want to end up messing other girls around either I suppose like you say there is no harm in drinks.


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