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Why can't I move on

  • 20-07-2009 4:04pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i'll try keep this short...

    broke up with girlfriend 7 years ago (now 26) after going out for 6 1/2 years. she moved to london and i was in college so decided it was for the best. i've never really gotten over her even though i've tried and would be back with her in a shot if the opportunity ever came up but she has moved on and is getting married next year (still living in London).

    for a few years after i never found any other girls attractive and went out meeting new girls just for the sake of it. have had relationships since then but never lasted more than a few months. (I dont think my heart was ever in it)

    in the last few months i have found myself attracted to a few girls that i have met, on nights out, through friends etc. chatted to them, got on great and felt they were interested in me too but have never taken it any further.

    i have still being going out meeting girls having one night stands etc but only ever with girls that i have no attraction to, its just because they are there at that time.

    this is really starting to get to me at the moment. i have become fed up with all these meaningless relationships. i guess i would like to start something with a girl that i fancy but i just cant seem to take it to the next level, whereas when i dont fancy them things just seem to happen.

    sorry the post is a bit all over the place.

    any advice is appreciated as my head is wrecked!!


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  • #2
    Wheeloflight
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23 ✭Wheeloflight


    Don't worry - you're just trying to put a plaster on a decapitated head.
    I know, I've been there. Don't bother with the meaningless casual crap, it's not worth a damn. Wait as long as it takes. I know it sounds hard and it can take months, sometimes years even. But if your heart's not in it, don't use someone or demean yourself by doing something for the sake of it.
    I'm sure I don't need to tell you that random sex with someone is not even a blip on the radar compared to sex with someone you love and have a connection with. It just ends up making you feel worse and even more lonely, and you find yourself comparing these strangers to the person you obviously still love or have feelings for. And they never match up.

    It's a horrible road mate, and a long one.

    Good luck x


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