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Unsure where i stand with a girl..

  • 20-07-2009 3:22pm
    #1
    kronsington
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,009 ✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I dont usually frequent the personal issues forum, so i apologise in advance if my ramblings are disjointed a bit.

    Right, basically Ive been seeing this really great girl for the last 2 months or so. we get on great, are very comfortable in each others company and thats all good. recently though, there has been some tension between us. perhaps it;s to do with the lack of clarification as to what exactly out "relationship" is. i said at the start i wasnt really looking for anything serious and she's usually a relationship person. we had a brief talk about this and now she says she's not looking for anything more than what we already have, whereas my feelings have changed a fair bit. another problem is, she travels abroad a lot for work so ive only been seeing her once a week for the last few weeks, and i seem to be getting the brush off more and more. she loves time with her friends/ family when she's home, which is perfectly fine, it just feels like ive been pushed to the side a bit. i think there's a lot of mixed signals going on right now, we both said today that we need to sit down and just talk all this stuff out, as its been coming for a while- we have slept together, im she says im the only person she has had sex with who wasnt her boyfriend at the time. im moving to dublin in sept and that was another reason i was hesitant to start anything, this is my first "relationship" as such, so im sure ive f*cked up a few times- and despite all this im a plus one to a wedding she's going to next week- seems like quite a couply thing to do- anyway, im rambling, i wont see her now until saturday when we'll have this chat- so i dont know whats going to happen- something isnt right- it's probably either crunch time and we start going out properly or just end it before it gets messier


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  • #2
    G86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,660 ✭✭✭G86


    Hey there

    To be honest I'd say she just has to much going on at the moment to think about a relationship. I'd say she probably wanted that at the start but then took you at your word when you said you weren't the type. The only thing you can do is be honest and tell her how you feel about it, just be straight up and tell her how you feel. If she doesn't want anything more then it's up to you to decide whether you can handle continuing the casual thing.


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