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Don't what to do!!

  • 20-07-2009 9:31am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everybody

    My head is in a bit of state at the moment over my relationship with my girlfriend. We have been going out nearly 6 months, and for the first 4 1/2 it has been going great. I get on well with her family, and she with mine, we've been on holidays abroad and everything generally has been going quite well. From the very outset she was always very affectionate towards me, telling me she was mad about me and I felt the same.

    The thing is, it's a long distance relationship (different parts of the country) and because she works as a retail store manager, she often works one day on a weekend and late on a Friday so I usually head down by bus or train each Friday evening. We always found the distance tricky but we kept on top of it.

    About a month ago she went through a really bad patch in work where she was working mental hours, and she started expressing doubts saying that she didn't feel her heart was in it, but she put it down to tiredness and we kept going.

    Two weeks ago though we had a long emotional phone call, where she said she felt the relationship was sort of stuck in a rut, that she had this uncomfortable feeling about the relationship and that we were too comfortable with each other, getting complacent and not really taking advantage of the time we had together. She reckoned we should give it a month or two and see how things went, but she said to remember if things worked out, that I was always loved. I kind of felt the same about how things were going and we decided we'd try and inject more fun and variety into proceedings, and we have I think!

    However, since then, I just feel her interest is waning more and more with each passing day. Her texts are getting shorter, she's not really reciprocating when I tell her I love her, we didn't have sex this weekend which is very unusual for us, I tried to initiate proceedings but she said she was tired.

    I guess the writing is on the wall here, but I don't want to face up to it. It has me so upset and I've been lying awake at night sobbing thinking about it. It's too painful for me to even contemplate, but having said that, at the moment, it feels like now I'm going through the relationship in reverse, with her feelings withering and her getting more distant, which is agonising. Seeing someone fall out of love with you is not an experience I would wish on anyone.

    Could anyone offer any advice? Is there anything else I can do?


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  • #2
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    Take the plunge mate and finish it. You might even feel slightly better. Currently the way things stand is that your head is melted thinking what's going on and that you are already going through a break up. You are just sort of denying it and thinking it will get better and what is making you feel this upset about it. Talk it through with her but to be honest, i think she is just too scared to do it herself so you may as well be the bigger person and and it. That way you can save your sanity.


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