What should i do heart broken

LegacyUser

Please give me advice i am in a long didtance relationship in a nutshell i pay for all the flights form him to come over then while he is here i pay for everything i mean everything even buy him clothes i feel bad as he is repaying a car loan which finished next year a coule of time i have sent money over to help him out untill payday i didnt mind in the begining but after 9 months its bugging me !

Dont get me wrong he is lovely at time but recently i went over to his parents for the weekend and basically his mam told me how good he was to his ex always buying her things even though she treated him badly according to his mam i was furious as he was paying for the car when he was with her too anyway i gave him 25 pounds towards a bill and after i confronted him about never doing anything romantic for me he stormed out of the house at around 3.30pm and went to the pub and left me alone with his mam and dad like a lemon.

very upset they where lovely bless them anyway he came back drunk at around 10.30pm he went up to his room and i followed to get a few bits to sleep down stairs i should have got them while he was out granted but he flipped started screaming at me nose to my nose saying that its was no wonder my ex beat the **** out of my i deserved it and if i did get out of the room he would do the same then got me by the arm and threw me out of his room his dad rang the police and when his dad said this he ran out of the house saying he was going to kill himself i chase after him to try calm him down which i did eventually he was more upset that his dad had rang the police than what he did as he would have been in deep do do as he is a policeman : (

after hours of calming him down telling him everything would be ok we went back to his parents home the next day he was a bit sheepish but i had to as for an apology i got a half hearted im sorry .... and for the weeks after he was super nice buying flowers romantic cards .. but he was over last weekend and i mentioned we should open a joint bank account to save for christmas he flipped out again to i said look just go home we where waitng for the aircoach on westmoreland street he let rip on the street saying he is half the man he was becase of me.

that was monday evening he turned his phone off untill wednesday sent me a txt saying he loves me and im the one that walked away he asked if we could talk when we got home 2 minutes into the conversation he started getting annoyed and hung up on me turned his phone off turned his phone off then txt me saying i shouldnt be so aggressive !!!!

all i did was ask why he was being so horrible to me and guess what he hung up again ! and turned his phone off then yesterday he txt begging me to talk we agreed a time to give him time to get sorted after work he rang 45mins late saying he was cooking .... with in 5 minutes he was getting wound up because i asked what he was playing at asking to talk.

then as soon as he hears something he dosent like bang he hangs up and turns his phone off i sent him a txt saying i had had enough that he had pushed me too far and he rang to say sorry and that he loves me i wa so angry i said i had enough and that it was over all day i felt like crap as i do really love him and he txt asking if we could speak at 10.00am

tomorrow (later) and i have agreed he dosent txt me or show me affection the way he used too earlier in the year i was have chemo and he mocked me saying he was fed up staying in (that 1 weekend) and i am always sick i had brest cancer but on the mend thank god what should i do my heart and head are at war

Sorry its so log winded

Confused

LegacyUser

How old are you two ? If you say 15/16 i understand if in mid 20’s/30's/40’s I would say what do you want ?

yellowstar

OP are you serious?? have you read your post get rid of this asshole. He sounds horrible and its hard enough being in any relationship let alone a long distance one with someone who is obviously a child (hanging up on you when it suits) Plus the fact he threatened violence against you, your giving him money what exactly do you gain from this relationship. He doesnt seem to support you at all and your ill!!! get out as fast as you can and see yourself as lucky there are plenty of nice lads out there.

seanybiker

im sorry i did not read all your post and I picked up that you are being taking for a mug.
Please if you are not a troll just get rid of him.

Queen-Mise

read your whole post again. What would say to someone in that situation.

He seems like a bad egg. Did he pick you becaure you were vulnerable at the time. And he is now losing it, because your getting your voice back and standing up for yourself.

LegacyUser

I know its very hard when you love someone but this man is walking all over you, please know that you deserve better than this treatment and get out now

LegacyUser

Well he rang bang on 10am and as soon as i mentioned everything i was doing the flights ect he hung up phone off what did i do to deserve this ...

SarahSassy

You need to take a long step away from this guy hon. This stress cannot be good for your health - seriously. He is treating you appallingly and in all fairness you are letting him. What do your family and friends think?

Nevyn

Long story short you do not deserve it and he is being an arsehole.

DenMan

You don't deserve to be treated like this OP. Nobody does. It's time to listen to head as it's talking to your heart a lot more now. Turn the page and move on. It's for the best.

bogs

To read your message is very sad indeed.You must think rationally and for your health recovery and your emotional health get RID of this chap.From what i can see there is absolutely no future in this relationship.You seem like a very loving, kind and reasonable person so get out immediately bogs

LegacyUser

We are both in our 30's i haven't told my family and 'friends' that all slowly disappered when i got ill, my family did ask about the bruises on my arms but i acted dumb sad i didnt know how they got there, i agree i am partly to blame but i thought i was doing it for the right reasons as he was running up big phone bills i am just devestated i just ran his home his Mam said he is gone out and will speak to him when he come in

Thank you everyone i know compared to some peoples problems ive not much to moan about

SarahSassy

The whole thing is making very little sense to me....