so pissed off

Partizan

Sorry guys for annoying you but i'm feeling mighty pissed.

A few months ago I met a girl on an online chat site and we got chatting away. Over a period of time we got close and last week we decided to meet. This week I took 2 days off work and went to Westport to see her. Last night I met her and we had a few drinks together. The night went very well. At 11pm she decided to go home and I left her outside the pub and said my goodbyes. We planned to go to the beach today and I told her that I would text her when I got up in the morning.

I got up this morning at 9.30, had breakfast at 10am and after brekkie called her. No call. Text her she did not reply. When I went to call her again her phone was switched off so i text her to say where i was. At lunch time I called her and the phone rang out. I went to text her again but the text dod not go through as the phone was switched off. I called her again at 3pm and the same story. Phone rang out and when i sent her the text the phone was switched off. Just now really pissed off and I sent her an angry text telling her thanks for wasting my time. I came all the way there to see out of my own expense and time and this is how I get treated.

Now she has been having a tough time in work and last night she seemed a bit depressed but by the end of the night she lightened up. Also her friend who lives in Westport is having difficulties however that does not give her the excuse to treat me in such an appalling manner. What is it with women? To be frank i'm getting fed up of the mind games and this isnt doing my self confidence the power of good. Some months ago i came out of a very bad break up and my Mum is ill at the moment. I dont deserve this and its the last thing i need.

Silverfish

Unfortunately she is entitled to not like you, however her behaviour was completely out of order considering you went all that way to see her.

Consider it a bullet dodged, you definitely had a lucky escape, she clearly had no manners whatsoever. Maybe she felt it was a bit full on to travel that far and take time off work to see her, it can be great in theory but when it actually happened maybe she got cold feet, who knows, she should have let you know what the situation was.

However not all women will treat you that way, don't let this ruin your outlook.

Wurly

Hey OP. Sorry you were treated so badly.

It appears that she just didn't like you as much as you liked her. She copped this on your date in Westport. Rather than deal with the situation, she took the cowardly way out and decided not to deal with you at all.

Don't contact her again - whatsoever. You have already contacted her a bit too much imo but I can see why you did.

As you have a lot on your plate at the moment, maybe stick to meeting girls in your own locality if possible? Basically don't be putting yourself out too much to meet these girls. You have enough going on in your life.

Chalk it down to experience, that's all you can do.

But don't tar all us women with the same brush. We are not all like that. In fact, i'd say very few are.

Chin up and I hope things are okay with your mother.

Trinity

Thats disgraceful cowardly behaviour.. Shes a scum bag best shot of her.

I'm not surprised you are pissed off she is obviously not worth the steam of your piss :mad:

Honestly if she was not attracted to you it wouldnt have killed her to show you around. her neck of the woods seeing as you went all that way to see her but failing that a bit of honestly and respect is the minimum to expect.

I hope you will ignore her from now on :mad:

G-Money

That's pretty rough. If I were you I'd just delete her details (including her number) and try to think of something else. If she contacts you, don't respond.

SarahSassy

You were very unlucky to have come across such an ignoramous.... Move on, forget her and what happened and dont think about her again...


Maybe its a bad time for you to be dating given all thats going on. Why not let yourself get over the bad breakup and give it a go again in c6 months???

Trinity

I would divert her to this thread in case she is in any doubt of how dispicable her behaviour was and dont fall for any excuses bout friends or work it takes 30 seconds to text someone and cancel a date particularly when they have travelled miles to see you.

G-Money

Trinity wrote: »

I would divert her to this thread in case she is in any doubt of how dispicable her behaviour was and dont fall for any excuses bout friends or work it takes 30 seconds to text someone and cancel a date particularly when they have travelled miles to see you.

Agreed. I've never bought this excuse of "I didn't have time to text you". That's a load of balls. No-one is THAT busy that they don't have 30 seconds to send a text. It's not like she was locked up in a cave in Afghanistan or something. Sure enough they might not have their phone on them when the text is received or whatever, but saying they didn't have time to reply is a cop out. I'm betting if Brad Pitt or someone like that was texting her she'd have plenty of time to reply. The way I see it, when they say they don't have time to text you it means they don't have time for you, full stop. And if they can't make time to reply to your text, then you shouldn't make time for them. End of story.

Just delete her mails, her number, block her on MSN or anything like that and make sure you delete her off it too. The last thing you want is to see her online and feel anger building up at how she treated you. Just act like you never met and try to forget that you ever crossed paths.

Partizan

SarahSassy wrote: »

You were very unlucky to have come across such an ignoramous.... Move on, forget her and what happened and dont think about her again...


Maybe its a bad time for you to be dating given all thats going on. Why not let yourself get over the bad breakup and give it a go again in c6 months???

Hi sarah, my relationship ended way back in early November and by the New Year I had gotten over my ex but I still get pangs thinking about her. I have dated a few women since and i clicked with some. However i still at times feel very depressed and down but I usually snap out of it. I was feeling great the last couple of weeks but this has knocked me for 6 and i'm back to square 1 again. No doubt i will be back on my feet but I wish this had never happened. I feel like the wind has been knocked out of me.

Red Hand

When I read your post first, I thought that maybe she was unable to respond cause of maybe a family emergency or death in the family or something like that. But then I saw that the phone alternated between ringing out and being switched off, so maybe that's not a possibility.

Not a nice thing to do.