Am I reading to much into it?

LegacyUser

My girlfriend resides in the states,i am here in dublin,this is gonna be a small post i just would like your toughts.

We talk everymorning when she is home before work then on her way into work.
We chat throughout the day on msn during her working day.
At night we chat before she gets home,all good i hear you say.

But after 7pm her time thats it contact ends,i have tried calling her house and her cell but her house is never answerd,and her cell goes to voicemail.
Am i being ott thinking that she is off out maybe on dates etc or am i just being paranoid?

Thanks for reading,just something i had to get off my chest.

Permabear

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LoanShark

Do You trust her?

Is she from the states?

I think you are borderline over possessive...

You really do have too much daily contact with her..Try to limit it to one phone call per day..
Not this crap of ringing her when shes going to work, coming from work, MSN in Work,ringing to see what she had for dinner etc...

It is not healthy in a relationship, and obviously it's not doing you all that good either!

LegacyUser

OP here.

Yes she resides in the states,and if i call at 6am her time is midnight.

As regards the contact she calls me in the mornings and on the way to work.

The msn is just there we dont spend time all of the day chatting on it.

As for being over possesive i really dont think so tbh,but i dunno maybe.

She says that after 7 is when she gets home and relaxes and i understand that but sometimes i will call after 7 very rarely tho,its only if i have something to discuss as regards my trip there.

kittenkiller

Have you asked her straight out?

Unless she's reading this, you won't get a proper answer from anyone here.
Sorry.

Best of luck.

thefeatheredcat

OP,

I think you're reading too much into it. She probably just wants some time to herself.

If you think about it, if you were physically there, you'd probably both be chilling out, watching tv or movies, on the net, go for drinks, whatever. But some people don't like to spend every minute of the day with someone else.

She could be meeting up with friends or family, who knows? Or preparing stuff for work the next morning.

If you have any suspicion, then that's an issue of trust.

I honestly think you should just go ahead and ask really casually if any plans for the evening or something like that. Don't make an issue, because that will also cause a rift in trust.

Who knows, maybe she just vegs out, has a hot bath and takes a sudoku book out!

You probably just need some reassurance from her.

Don't think too much on it as all sorts of thoughts can run around and then you'll just end up with more suspicious thoughts and that will get you nowhere.

Hope that helps!

SarahSassy

It does seem strange to me if its 7 pm HER time. Have you met her and been to her home?

rainbowtrout

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OP here.


She says that after 7 is when she gets home and relaxes and i understand that but sometimes i will call after 7 very rarely tho,its only if i have something to discuss as regards my trip there.

Well isn't that your answer? She's already spoken to you several times over the course of the day. She probably doesn't have anything new to say. She does need sometime to herself too. If I was coming in from work at 7pm, I'd probably have to make and eat dinner, I'd want to throw myself on the couch and read a book or watch TV, I might go out for a walk, I might have housework to do. I might be meeting friends.

You can't really expect her to be on call 24 hours a day sitting waiting at the other end of the phone or at her computer. She probably also realises that if you're 6 hours ahead of her, that it's 1am in Ireland and you might be in bed so she doesn't expect to get calls from you.

It's also possible that you are revolving your life around calling your girlfriend several times a day/evening and you're the one sitting at the computer/phone waiting for her and wondering where she is. It's not healthy.

miec

Have you ever stayed at her house? If not, it is possible she could be married, if you have, then she is probably genuine about wanting to spend time to chill out.

LegacyUser

I know this is gonna be controversial, but I don't get this at all. How can your "girlfriend" live in the US and you live in Ireland?

How does that work at all?