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Getting Personal Belongings Back From Ex After Break Up

  • 13-07-2009 10:26PM
    #1
    businessboy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭


    just need to get some stuff back from an ex after they broke up with me. been about two months now and sick of being fed excuses and bulls**t about when im gonna get my stuff back.

    the stuff is mainly clothes, few cd's and dvd's books etc, at least a good few hundred euro worth that im not willing to let go.

    anyone got any advice when the ex refuses to repsond to any form of communication the last week. ive offered to collect the stuff myself to save them the 2 hour journey but still no response.

    anyone got any ideas?


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  • #2
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    Sounds very familiar, but thankfully in my case it was only a few books and a €50 loan - maybe €150 worth in total, max.

    I wrote it off as a lesson learned.

    Know that's no help, because a few hundred quids worth is a different story, and you've already said that you're not willing to let it go.


  • #3
    businessboy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭businessboy


    i really just dont understand how people can act like they do...

    like its basically theft, its my stuff and they wont return it. i just left a voicemail sayin that unless i hear back from them tmrw with a reasonable day and time to collect my stuff that i have no other option but to contact my solicitor.

    dunno how thats gonna go down...


  • #4
    tanyaog2007
    Closed Accounts Posts: 168 ✭✭tanyaog2007


    totaly out of order its your stuff like .ask them to leave it at a friends house and u collect it without havn to see eachother . best of luck


  • #5
    businessboy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭businessboy


    ah ive tried that i tried everything i can think of but now they wont even answer the phone, texts or emails.


  • #6
    starbelgrade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    He / she could be dead in a ditch for all you know. Most likely though is that it was a bad break up for him / her and he / she is very upset & doesn't wanna talk to you for that reason.

    The fact you're leaving messages all over the place & threatening solicitors is only compounding the problem.

    Leave it a week or two, send a text saying you apologise for over-reacting (even if you don't think you were & I'm not saying you were either) & could you please call over some time whenever it's convenient for them & you might have more luck.

    You can't loose the head when yr negotiating or you've nothing left to negotiate with. Meet them half way & stay level headed & they should respond with more reason.


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  • #7
    businessboy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 71 ✭✭businessboy


    starbelgrade wrote: »
    He / she could be dead in a ditch for all you know. Most likely though is that it was a bad break up for him / her and he / she is very upset & doesn't wanna talk to you for that reason.

    The fact you're leaving messages all over the place & threatening solicitors is only compounding the problem.

    Leave it a week or two, send a text saying you apologise for over-reacting (even if you don't think you were & I'm not saying you were either) & could you please call over some time whenever it's convenient for them & you might have more luck.

    You can't loose the head when yr negotiating or you've nothing left to negotiate with. Meet them half way & stay level headed & they should respond with more reason.

    I understand your post and maybe i should of made myself clear at the start. they always said they wanted to be friends after the break up and i did meet them twice since for lunch and a chat and both times they said they forgot my stuff.

    we talked over this period through calls, text and email but in the last week when ive really put my foot down about getting my stuff back i get no response. hence why i am so angry.


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