Girlfriend may be pregnant

LegacyUser

Hey guys, going unreg'ed for this.

Back story, going out with herself for 7 years, we got engaged back in February this year.

I'm 25, she's 23, I love her to bits.

The issue is that she's late by about 11 days. Now, normally her periods can be a bit over the place, but the last 5 months, they've been regular.

I'm ****ting myself. And I don't know why. And I know I'm doing my usual thing of shrinking into myself, being quiet around her, til I get my head sorted out.

I'm going to love that child like nothing else on earth.

I know its not easy for her either. I don't really know what I'm posting about, I just want to get it off my chest, because I don't want anyone else to know yet.

helimachoptor

Op try not to worry to much. Go get a test and see if its positive.

LiteBytes

Mate. It's normal enough to feel like that. Honestly, if she is pregnant you will come to terms with it and will find yourself looking forward to the baby. It happened to me, when my wife (girlfriend at the time) told me she was pregnant, I wigged out inside. You come to terms with it, and now, I couldn't imagine my life without my daughter.

Look on the bright side man, things have a way of working themselves out in the end, and even if she is pregnant, you'll look back at this in years to come, and wonder what you were fussing about.

@helimachoptor is right though. You need to get that test done so you know.

LegacyUser

Of course your freaked out, its a life changing thing no matter what the situation is.

I got engaged at 22, we went ring shopping, both of us walking on air, plans for the future in our heads, picked a ring, had to wait a month to collect it, 3 wks later, period late, pregnancy test taken, baby on the way, back to collect ring in a daze!!!

We both were shocked stunned all over the place, spent many nights in silence staring at the ceiling. None of these emotions were to do with our relationship, it was how different things were going to turn out. We went on a weeks holiday and agreed not to mention the pregnancy, we both needed head space and just to be together.

However its now 5 years later, we're married and we could not imagine life without our child, the house would feel empty, our lives would feel empty.

What I'm trying to say is, what your feeling now is normal, your whole map of your future might be changing, its come out of the blue and taken you totally by surprise. I'm 100% sure your gf is feeling the very same, she's scared and shocked. If you can at all, even if its really difficult try to keep talking to her, at least give her hugs and kisses, she's scared right now and she needs to know its not her thats making you quiet but that your scared too. Lean on each other and you'll get through this no matter what way it works out

Sheog

As others have said the first step is to go to the doctor and get a proper test, you may just be worrying over nothing after all. If your girlfriend is pregnant it really isn't the end of the world though it will seem like it is initially.

These things always work out in the end, especially if you support eachother through it. You menioned there that you are quiet and withdrawn at the moment which is totally normal. However bear in mind that this might be adding to your girlfriends worry. She is probibly shocked too, and is more than likely freaking out at your reaction. Try to reassure her of your commitment and love, so that she doesn't ahve to worry about you leaving her or anything like that!

Best of luck!

lolli

Op,

first thing go get a test, it'll let you know either way. I don't understand how you can leave it that long without buying a test!!

I found out a couple of months ago that i'm pregnant. Its a shock at first, but we are really looking forward to meeting our little one.