First date nerves

LegacyUser

I had the worst first date yesterday and I can't stop thinking about it. It was awful. So have to go unregistered to get some advice, help, and opinions.

It was yesterday, and I started of by getting up a little late. I showered, got ready and ran for a bus into town. I was so sweaty and ended up smelling of bo by the end of the evening. Didn't have time to go shopping for a new top. So I went off to meet this guy. Walking down the street, before I met him I realised I forgot to add my chicken fillets into my bra before I left the house. Not good!

So I met him. It was only when I saw him at our agreed meeting place that nerves came over me. I became all tongue tied and started fecking up my words.

Off we went for lunch where I became more relaxed. He seemed shy (which he warned me about) and nervous. So I started to ask a load of questions and he enjoyed talking about himself. We were chattied about alot that we chatted about online (found him first on an online dating site). We went for some drinks afterwards and that went ok. We chatted some more. I went braindead alot during our time together and didn't have much constructive things to add to conversations but conversation flowed freely all the same and there wasn't much awkward silences.

He was so nice and charming, and so kind. He insisted on paying for everything but I offered to pay my share. But he didn't allow it.

Although I found him attractive, and humourous and I enjoyed his company I hated the whole experience. Its been so long since my last relationship so its been some time since i was invovled in the dating game.

So the end of the evening came and we parted and he said maybe we could do this again sometime and I said that that would be good and that I would like it.

It was only when it was all over and I was home when I thought that I didn't pay him a single compliment. I usually do (or i did in the past before). and not only that when I like someone I usually like to catch him off guard and smack his bottom (to bring some fun and humour into the whole experience) and i didn't do that. I didn't smack his bottom.

So I'm hoping for a second date but I think it looks unlikely. What do you all think? Any advice. Does anybody have any stories about a bad first date tthat actually led to a relationship. He'll probably think that I'm mean and selfish and he'll probably remember as ms smelly crooked tits.

LegacyUser

He wouldnt have stayed with you so long if he didnt like you. He could have made his excuses after lunch & left, but he went for drinks with you instead. Why dont you text/e-mail him to thank him & say you had a good time and then see what he comes back with.
b.t.w. I'm not sure if the smacking bottom thing would have gone down well if he was shy!

kerplunk86

There is no big deal with being nervous on a date! He probably felt the exact same way. Everyone make little mistakes on a first date and generally no-one will hold it against you. Sometimes silly little mistakes can make both people laugh and ease the tension. Like the above poster said if he suggested meeting up for a second date, things are looking good for you!

CDfm

Well if you like him tell him so and maybe you can offer to arrange the next date as your treat.

PK2008

I think it was probably a good thing you didnt slap him on the bottom. Compliment would be nice but not a biggie either

I think your over anlaysing- it sounds like it went ok, try to relax- your stressing yourself out over nothing

Adamisconfused

Personally, I’d say he’ll be in touch as long as he isn’t too bloody timid.

He said that he was shy so I’d bet he probably wasn’t really concentrating on you the whole night at all. He was more worried about his own actions and hoping not to screw up. The fact that you were smelly and aloof most likely went largely unnoticed.
Right now, he’s probably waiting on a friendly text from you before he initiates anything.

LegacyUser

Oh god! What are you like??? Seriously, you are way over analysing this, if he gets in contact great, if he doesn't, you can txt him, seiously, its not a big deal...... I'd say don't sweat the small stuff, but sounds like you may have done that on the date already...

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the advice.

I texted him thanking him and he texted me back. and not only at the end of our first meeting did he say that we should do it again sometime, he wrote it in the text too. He was such a gentleman. I'll text him later in the week to see if he would be interested to go to a comedy gig or something.

Any advice for the second date.

Liam Byrne

Two positives to take from what you view as a "disaster first date".

1) The second one can only be better (and it sounds like there will be a second)
2) It's something to laugh about

Just be sure to play Phil Collins' "Against the Odds" in the background on the way home from the second!

Best of luck!

CDfm

OP the comedy club is a great idea but so is a gallery like IMMA on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon.