Marriage breakup

LegacyUser

can anyone tell me how you can love a man(husband)so much never fight always do everything for him to be told one day that he dosent love you anymore has fallen out of love with you i suppose life was just going along with kids to look after maybe i didnt notice he was unhappy but what i want to know is why not talk and try to sort out things is that not what you should do am i wrong to ask that?

Wurly

What a horrible situation, OP. I feel for you.

You deserve answers and are perfectly within your rights to ask for them.

I would need to know what went wrong too. And I would want to fight for my marraige.

If your partner was unhappy, then it was his responsibility to speak up for himself. How were you supposed to know that there was a problem if you were never told? Please don't be hard on yourself. Please. This situation is hard enough without that. You need to be good to yourself through this.

If it were me, i'd fight. When was the last time you spoke to him. Have you tried to talk to him since he finished things?

LegacyUser

talk all the time but about kids i have tried to talk about us but he wont and has now moved in with another women he met a few months ago shes not irish and my husband and i would of having great irish slagging matches with each other cant see her having that humour i think its the same old story shes younger foreign no kids here im just hearing so many same stories since this has happened to us life stinks men have it so easy

VaioCruiser

Hi OP sorry about your trouble.

I guess it depends a lot on how your husband has been feeling in recent years, and feels now. We are not always responsible for our emotions are we. When we fall out of love, we cannot negotiate our way back into it .... it is how it is and sometimes both partners are better free to start again than make each other unhappy.

Clearly you are right about talking, I agree . . . but we only know one side of the story to be honest. Not fighting at all seems unnatural to me for a start.

Being bitter about men righty now is not surprising, but it doesn't really achieve anything except make you feel a bit better temporarily.

All the best.

newstar

thats men for you wont show their real feelings just try to talk to him alone maybe get kids minded so he has a chance to talk to you if you still love him tell him how you feel but dont beg him you are better than that, he will be the one who will be begging in a few weeks when he sees what he is giving up for someone who is prob using him lust can only last so long real love is for ever

TheCaveman

not all men are bad....

I was on the other side of things....

I cought my wife in bed with another man.......



Lets just say,,,,, **** happens....

I wish i can find a nice loving woman like the op.....


there is hope, believe me....

VaioCruiser

TheCaveman wrote: »

not all men are bad....

I was on the other side of things....

I cought my wife in bed with another man.......



Lets just say,,,,, **** happens....

I wish i can find a nice loving woman like the op.....


there is hope, believe me....

Well said. It happens just as much on both sides. My best friend is proof.

All the best.

LegacyUser

Vaiocruiser when I say we didn't fight I mean it we didn't and of late I am reading info for kids of how to cope. The advise is explain to them about the fighting but there wasn't any the kids are so confused to for that reason, and I don't hate men or my husband I just don't know what's going on in his head and I know I said he has fallen out of love with me his words but I don't belive that !he seems to be as confused to