Would this be out of line?

LegacyUser

Ok Here's the story. Myself and my ex-girlfriend of 2 years broke up about 6 weeks ago. We broke up because we both had a stressful month and that resulted in a lot of fights between each other. Now when that month ended we sat down and talked about ourselves. Both of us are leaving ireland to go study in different places for 6 months from august. So we said to each other instead of trying to fight for a relationship that will inevitably see us seperate in august we should just stop things now. fine fair enough, BUT we are meeting up soon before each of us leave.
I am just wondering would it be out of line to ask "is there a chance we could get back together when we're back?". I do love her and have been missing her dearly since we broke up.
is it just wishful thinking on my part? or is she gone forever?

Miss Fluff

I think it's fine to put it out there, you clearly care about her. Just don't expect her to respond that yes, on so-and-so date in February when we are both back, we can pick up where we left off etc etc.

Have an open honest chat with her before you leave, tell her you've been missing her and keep in touch through emails etc while both away.

Munster_Gal

Long distance relationships are hard. And even harder when you're trying to concentrate on your studies.
I truly believe what's for you won't go passed you! If it's meant to be then when you're both home, it'll just happen. Don't put pressure on yourselves. You can't force love.....

I really hope that it all works out for you though

Moomoo1

don't start sentences with 'is there a chance'. Just say: 'I'd like us to get back together when we're back'.

LegacyUser

I d say it to her allright but dont look for a definite commitment from her - or indeed give one - cause apart from anything you could meet someone else and no point torturing yourself for next few months. I know it might make you feel better now to have a commitment from her but it would not fair if things changed over next few months and you no longer were into her. No one knows the future.

VaioCruiser

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Ok Here's the story. Myself and my ex-girlfriend of 2 years broke up about 6 weeks ago. We broke up because we both had a stressful month and that resulted in a lot of fights between each other. Now when that month ended we sat down and talked about ourselves. Both of us are leaving ireland to go study in different places for 6 months from august. So we said to each other instead of trying to fight for a relationship that will inevitably see us seperate in august we should just stop things now. fine fair enough, BUT we are meeting up soon before each of us leave.
I am just wondering would it be out of line to ask "is there a chance we could get back together when we're back?". I do love her and have been missing her dearly since we broke up.
is it just wishful thinking on my part? or is she gone forever?

As someone else said here... don't ever start with "is there a chance..." It is so needy !!!

Just be really nice and enjoy her company and say, with a smile, that you till feel strongly about her and hope you will both feel the same after 6 months. DON'T wait for an answer.. just get on with chatting etc.

Hell you may meet someone ! Don't assume anything.

All the best.

Kadie

Do it, You'll regret it if you dont.

CDfm

Who initiated the break up you or her?

These fights -do you mind saying what they were about and if those conditions are likely to exist when you go and when you get back?

LegacyUser

The fights were due to exam related stress/work committments(which are now gone for both of us). It's hard to say who intiated the break up. I said during exams we needed a serious talk when we were done. Then once they were over we met. We both sorta knew as we went for the coffee. I said "we going to talk about us aren't we?" She then brought it up first. It was probably as mutual as you could get.

Btw I know "is there any chance.." sounds a bit needy but I can't meet her and demand we get back together. I'm asking her. It'll be a two-way thing. maybe I should re-phrase it, but other wise I think I have the jist of what i want to say right.

CDfm

My 10 cents is if you argued during your exams when you were both under a bit of pressure its allowed to second guess your decision. Maybe you should ask her does she feel that you both have done the right thing by splitting up over an argument during exams. If you phrase it that way you can get her opinion and if she has doubts and sees future potential it leaves the door open.

loloray

meh, six months isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things. I think if you're special enough together, you could be together pretty easily. We have the internet and phones and stuff these days.

LegacyUser

Well We're definitely finished now. WE won't be getting back together. It's nice to have some closure but i am pretty upset. Feck. i loved her.


agh!

CDfm

Well absence makes the heart wander. So there should be nothing stopping you dating now and who knows you might like it.

LegacyUser

thanks cdfm. Jeez this is like a 2nd break up. I do feel better though strangely. thanks guys