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Commitment?

  • 09-07-2009 5:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    myself and my boyfriend of over 2 years, are probably heading towards some sort of commitment, but he`s not into getting married through what i see are the usual ways (church or registry office) and yes I`d like a small no frills wedding but its something I definitely could live without...

    So my issue is wondering if there was some other way we could commit to each other if/when the time comes?

    We don`t live together or in the same county so I don`t see us living together, although a big step, as commitment enough. I just see that as a change of address...

    I don`t think I want a big grand gesture from him or any daft ceremony but I`d like something and dunno what the options are...

    So what do people do that are not getting hitched? Just live together til whenever or swear to each other that they`ll love no one else?
    Is it deciding to have kids together is the commitment?


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  • #2
    WeeBushy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,572 ✭✭✭WeeBushy


    Why are you determined to make a commitment?

    Seeing as you don't even live in the same country, surely one of you moving to a completely different country and moving in together (a HUGE step in a relationship) counts as a gesture of commitment.

    EDIT: sorry read county as country! but still a big deal leaving your home to wherever he lives/visa versa.


  • #3
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    You could have your own commitment ceremony and 'wedding' celebration. There are some really nice alternative ceremonies such as handfasting which you might consider, if its not too outré for you.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Yes handfasting is a lovely ceremony, me and my longterm BF at the time did it around ten years ago - you can personalise it as much as you want and it's a very intimate acknowledgement of commitement (if you do it on Samhain you have the beauty of opting for a one year and one day commitement).


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