Phone Locked, a bit suspicious!!!

LegacyUser

Hi Guys

I went to use my girlfriends phone the other night as I had no credit in mine and she has a lock with a code on it. She has never had this on before and I think it is a bit strange and I am now wondering has she something to hide. In my opinion its more hassle than it's worth putting a security code on it. She always has her phone with her at all times, never really out of her sight, but never had a code on it before.

any opinions, do you think im right to be suspicious??

LG26

Hi Op

It seems to me that maybe your OH has something to hide, as you said why go to the trouble of putting a code on your phone, to me thats more hassle than it's worth.

Have you asked her why it is on her phone???

The Real B-man

Could be but i have a Code on my Phone out of Habit and not giving the Satisfaction to Thieves if its roobed as the Phone has to be wiped for it to be Removed lot of hassle for your average scumbag!

Just ask her

LegacyUser

Very suspicious IMO. However saying that, if she had something to hide, why doesn't she just delete stuff.

I would ask one time "is it ok to use your phone babe?" (making sure you have hold of it, and see how she reacts. If she has the phone in her hand, she could take the code off before handing it to you, whereas if you have it, you can question why it is locked.

LG26

Hi Real B-Man/Lg26

I haven't asked her yet why it is on her phone, to be honest I have just thought the worst. I just can't undertand why. Real B-Man, I know you said incase it's robbed etc but I know her and that would never come into her head, honestly.

I really think she is hiding something from me and even if I ask her why, who's to say shes even gonna tell me the truth.

My head is wrecked over this as she is very secretive about her phone anyway, so it just makes me think she defo has something she doesn't want seen.

petethebrick

Speaking from personal experience - whenever I've changed email passwords, put lock on phone etc I have had something to hide
Just ask her, that's all you can do

Ddad

tell her you've no credit, can you borrow her phone, ask her for the pin. i f she unlocks it herself without giving you the pin.....worry.

LegacyUser

Ok i am meeting with her tonight, so will do the whole no credit thing and see what happens. for some reason i don't think its gonna turn out too well, I just have a gut feeling.

reprazant

Is LG26 the OP?

If so, why is he answering his own queries?

LegacyUser

reprazant wrote: »

Is LG26 the OP?

If so, why is he answering his own queries?

LOL

Something is defo up, no one locks their phone for no reason!

LegacyUser

Hi Sunflower,

It's basically just the phone locking. I know she is a huge flirt anyway and that bothers me in some ways but the phone locking I just find weird. and yes the phone is sometimes on silent but not all the time. I don't think she is physically cheating but I do think she is contacting someone she doesn't want me to know about.

No reprazant i am not LG26, i don't want to get into it on boards as don't want to embarass anyone. Will pm you if you need me to.

I am meeting her tonight so was thinking of asking could I send a text, that way (and I know it's very childish) I can get into her inbox and see what might be going on????

seamus

The most probable thing is that she was fiddling with her phone while she was bored, poking through the settings, found "Phone Lock", thought, "Oh, that's a good idea" and turned it on.

Unless you have an actual reason to be suspicious, (such as changing a password and not telling you about it) I wouldn't worry about it.

Xiney

LG26 wrote: »

Hi Real B-Man/Lg26

I haven't asked her yet why it is on her phone, to be honest I have just thought the worst. I just can't undertand why. Real B-Man, I know you said incase it's robbed etc but I know her and that would never come into her head, honestly.

I really think she is hiding something from me and even if I ask her why, who's to say shes even gonna tell me the truth.

My head is wrecked over this as she is very secretive about her phone anyway, so it just makes me think she defo has something she doesn't want seen.

What's suspicious is you replying to yourself in your own thread.

Locked.

Xiney

Thread reopened - LG26 has satisfied me via pm that he and the OP are in a situation where they share computers at times but are not the same person.

LG26

I am very sorry if it came across as I was trolling, this is definatley not the case.

Thanks
LG

John Mason

stop jumping to conclusions and ask her

i used to have a code on my phone because i was sick of people with no credit "borrowing" my phone to make calls

Nitxteha

It's her privacy. Don't jump at conclusions or you can go crazy. Her mobile has a password as her hotmail or gmail has one too. You would not ask her for her hotmail password, would you?

I she was cheating, you'd find, cheaters are always caught in the end. But don't try to look for anything, don't waste your energy..

Bren1609

A guilty conscience has no accuser and as the old saying goes earwigs and snoops usually find out something bad about themselves.

I was in this situation where my gf snooped thru some of my things and in the end she ended up with the egg on her face.

weird

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi Guys

I went to use my girlfriends phone the other night as I had no credit in mine and she has a lock with a code on it. She has never had this on before and I think it is a bit strange and I am now wondering has she something to hide. In my opinion its more hassle than it's worth putting a security code on it. She always has her phone with her at all times, never really out of her sight, but never had a code on it before.

any opinions, do you think im right to be suspicious??

yep, I'd be suspicious too. My ex started doing this right before I found out she was cheating.

LegacyUser

How did you actually find out though? I just really have a bad gut feeling and it is making me feel sick. I know I actually have no proof but something is telling me it's not good.

ncmc

OP, is it just the locked phone or has your GF given you other reasons to think there might be something going on? (other than being a bit of a flirt). I think it is strange that you have jumped to such huge conclusions just because of a lock on the phone, there could be any number of innocent explanations. As a previous poster said, she could have turned it on by accident or maybe doesn't want other people using her phone. You say you think she is contacting someone else, is it possible that it is perfectly innocent but she doesn't tell you about it because she knows you'll jump to conclusions!

I would think carefully before challenging her about it, I for one would be pretty p*ssed off if my OH jumped to a conclusion like that for such a small reason. If it were me, I would keep my eye out for other signs, but otherwise I would be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt, going through her inbox etc is uncool, everyone has a right to privacy.

Richard

I would not find it one bit suspicious. In fact, it's good practice, and something I always do.

But ask her if you're worried.

ManOfMystery

IMO you need other reasons to check up on her.

Locking her phone could be something as simple as someone at work talking about it and saying it's more secure.

LegacyUser

I know I need other reasons to check up on her. I just have this horrible gut feeling and I don't know why. I feel sick. I have never had trust issues with anyone but with her I do. We got together a good while after she broke up with her ex and even though they are broken up I always feel second best to him and thats who I am afraid she is texting and also a f**k buddy she had right before me aswell. She was always onto him when we first got together. So I suppose I have always felt these insecurities.

Dubliner28

seamus wrote: »

The most probable thing is that she was fiddling with her phone while she was bored, poking through the settings, found "Phone Lock", thought, "Oh, that's a good idea" and turned it on.

Unless you have an actual reason to be suspicious, (such as changing a password and not telling you about it) I wouldn't worry about it.

Agree with Seamus here.
Maybe she hits of it from time to time in her bag and rings someone by mistake.
maybe like also posted to stop her work mates looking or younger brothers/sisters/mam/dad looking at it
Maybe she forgets how to unlock it.
To stop a scumbag using it if (god forbid) she was attacked.
Maybe she talks about you to her friends and doesnt want to seeing these texts for watever reason good or bad.

ncmc

Unregistered wrote: »

I know I need other reasons to check up on her. I just have this horrible gut feeling and I don't know why. I feel sick. I have never had trust issues with anyone but with her I do. We got together a good while after she broke up with her ex and even though they are broken up I always feel second best to him and thats who I am afraid she is texting and also a f**k buddy she had right before me aswell. She was always onto him when we first got together. So I suppose I have always felt these insecurities.

It's an awful feeling to feel insecure, it can really eat away at your insides, however you need to look logically at this. Many people have contact with their exes, it can be perfectly innocent. As for the other guy, maybe he was a friend before he was anything else and she still treats him as a friend. To be totally honest, it sounds like you are insecure about these guys and you are jumping on the smallest thing to try and prove her guilt. You have to remind yourself that she is with you, not these guys - they are exes for a reaon.

Talk to her about it if you must, but be prepared for her to be p*ssed at you. You may very well come across as controlling if you pull her on being in contact with her exes.

I really think you need to forget all about this. If she is cheating, there will be other signs. Don't sabotage a good relationship because of your jealousy and insecurities.

LegacyUser

Hi ncmc

Thank you, you are correct in what you say. It does come across that i am trying to find a reason or proof that she is cheating. I cant help but have a feeling. I will leave it for now I just hope that im not correct and i don't find out later down the line that my gut was correct.

rallye

There could be any number of reasons as to why she locked her phone and you will only wreck your head jumping to conclsions.

If she is cheating then you will begin to notice other tell tale signs such as, a sudden drop of sex, her going out by herself with the "girls" more than normal etc...etc...

LegacyUser

Ok this is what I was thinking of doing, please dont berate me for this.....

Yeah I know im gonna wait til we're in bed and she's in the bathroom washing her teeth or something, then im just gonna shout in asking can I use her phone to send a text and see what she says. I will know by her reaction then if there is something up.

Dubliner28

Very well said ncmc:)

LegacyUser

id my phone locked cause i was cheating. sorry o.p i hope its diff 4 u. let us know how it panned out. best of luck

SarahSassy

My phone automatically locks after a few seconds so it doesnt start dialling numbers in my bag... I think you may be over-reacting because you are insecure but if there are other signs then keep looking.

IRISH RAIL

security codes can be hacked now with just the imei number so if its stolen thats a wastwe of time.
good idea op about the reaction but maybe she could be peed off with people using her credit and is sending you a gentle hint to get out and buy some.

Saucey-Susie

honesty, i think you have issues with your relationship, without even knowing if she is cheating or not. The fact that you noticed her phone was locked and didnt just ask her straight up why, isnt good. and the fact you immediately thought she was cheating obviously isnt good either
I have been with my partner for 3 years and i know if tomorrow i went to use his phone it was locked, i would just simply ask why. I wouldnt not ask, thinkin whats the point incase he comes up with a lie or whatever

at the end of the day, there are definitely trust issues here, and the only way to get past it is to just ask! i hope you tried to use her phone last night and if it was locked, you simply asked why. if it wasnt locked, you need to give yourself some space and figure out why you jumped to conclusions so quicky that you thoguht she was cheating on you and what made you not trust her the second something small happens.

LegacyUser

Hi Guys

I did as I said last night and asked could I use her phone, she seemed a bit hesitant but let me. She is cheating and has been seeing one of her past f**k Buddies behind my back. it's all over, I walked out and will never return.

Thanks for all your posts and yes some of you thought I was being insecure, it seems I had a right to be.

Sorry a bit upset right now

Wibbs

Ahh bugger sorry to hear that, but at least you know and you're no longer in a lie of a relationship.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi Guys

I did as I said last night and asked could I use her phone, she seemed a bit hesitant but let me. She is cheating and has been seeing one of her past f**k Buddies behind my back. it's all over, I walked out and will never return.

Thanks for all your posts and yes some of you thought I was being insecure, it seems I had a right to be.

Sorry a bit upset right now

Sorry to hear that. What a bas***d, her and the situation.

At least you know anyway. Leave her to the sorry sordid affair, things happen for a reason, there is someone much better waiting for you.

Cry, scream, punch pillows - let it all out to make sure you can get over it as quickly as possible then it is time to move on to pastures new. Leave the losers to it. She will do it to someone else, you are better off without, but I am sure you know that already.

ncmc

OP, I'm so sorry to hear that. I guess to us just hearing about the locked phone, it did seem like you were over reacting, but you obviously had a gut feeling which can be hard for others to understand. You were obviously picking up on other signals.

At least you know now and you can get on with your life and find a girl who will respect you and treat you right. We're not all like her!

finbarrk

Well at least you were right to be suspicious. Put it down as an experience and move on.

Moomoo1

sorry about that op. At least you found out reasonably quickly, and she didn't try to string you along by making up false reasons as to why the phone was locked.

Saucey-Susie

aww no, im sorry to hear that. At the end of the day tho, its best to find out as soon as possible, than wondering and ignoring your gut and finding out weeks or months down the line. Just remember Karma is a ***** and she will get hers!

LegacyUser

oh god just came across this thread, im really sorry but at least you found out now,, people generally are not insecure for no reason, and if you hadnt found out now you would have only being doing your own head in by wondering and questioning everything,, best of luck to you, and i agree karma is a b***h and what goes around comes around...

Nervous Wreck

Well OP, now that the b1tch is gone, you can get on with things and find someone who respects you. Don't let this c*nt ruin your confidence in future relationships or your ability to trust others. We all have a crappy ex at some stage, its almost a rite of passage. But forget her now. Can't even say I'm sorry to hear it. You're better without her and you're better than her.

Good luck. Go forth and slut thyself.

Miss Fluff

Poor OP, am sure you very upset.:( There is nothing worse than uncertainty though and at least now you know you were too good for the cheating little
b1tch. There ARE plenty of good 'uns out there so please don't let this put you off. Onwards and upwards my friend. x

Sephiroth_dude

sorry to hear that she was cheating on you op,not nice thing to happen to anyone,chin up plenty more fish in the sea,better you found now than in a couple of months time.

~me~

aw im sorry she did that to you! good luck finding someone actually worth your time.

lolli

Sorry to hear that op, you deserve better.

Best of luck