Doubts about girlfriend, can I trust her?

james197

Hi.

I've been seeing a girl for 7 months.
She cheated on me before, snogged a fella, came clean about it asked for a second chance. Was a gay friend of hers she kissed on her birthday while I was in the club as well.

She was on a night out lately with the girls. She let on they went to bars only one club which they did not like and then back to a pub.

I've found out since they were in a club they did not like but followed this by going to another club instead.

In this club I've heard they bumped into a stag party. She has now admitted this and that friends of her this kiss some of the guys.

Later again she admitted she did dance with some of them on the dancefloor but was only leading them on for a laugh and didn’t go any further.

I'm finding it hard to believe that she didn't do the same either in getting off with one of them.

What do ye think?

Wagon

Why would she tell her boyfriend that her mates kissed some of the stag party and that she dances to lead them on? It doesn't make any sense.

rallye

I dont think this relationship is going anywhere.

You dont trust her and you may never will so you are always gonna have these doubts in your head.

james197

Wagon wrote: »

Why would she tell her boyfriend that her mates kissed some of the stag party and that she dances to lead them on? It doesn't make any sense.

She told me when I pressing her about what had gone on in the club when she bumped into the stag.

Doesn't make any sense to me either.

Wagon

james197 wrote: »

She told me when I pressing her about what had gone on in the club when she bumped into the stag.

Doesn't make any sense to me either.

Maybe she's trying to make you jealous. Or keeping you on your toes by proving that she's attractive to other lads.

Either way, it sounds like an annoying situation. It's the kind of thing that really puts me off a girl, bragging about how other lads were trying to come onto her. Why bother? It's not like you'll feel better hearing that stuff. Does this kind of thing happen often?

LegacyUser

Hi James,

Sorry to hear your in this sh1tty situation. To be honest, I wouldn't tolerate this behaviour it was from my girlfriend- as hard as it might be id be telling her goodluck. I don't know what she is trying to achieve but whatever it is it's ridiculously immature.

LegacyUser

you say she cheated on you before with a gay guy?? im not exactly sure how thats possible. Lots of girls are extra touchy feely with gay guys and kisses arent unknown. Would it have bothered you if it was another girl?

Im gonna take a wild guess here and say that after that, the green eyed monster probably rose up a good few times on your part. Maybe this is why she didnt tell you about the club?? She knows she did nothing wrong except probably flirt a bit, but thought you would read too much into it and it was easier just not to tell you? Its hard to know.

Look, you are never gonna actually know what happened either way. The way I see it is you have 2 choices....

1. Trust your girlfriend is telling the truth and move on, and dont let jealousy or insecurity ruin anything from here on forward. Just see what happens in the future.

2. Believe your girlfriend is lying, and if thats true, then why would you want to be with her?

NickNolte

Dump her and find someone more deserving. She sounds like a stupid little child who can't be trusted.