Blurring friendship lines

LegacyUser

I am extremely good friends with this guy from college, in fact, we both consider one another best friends. We are so at ease with one another and can talk about anything!However, sometimes and especially recently i'm beginning to wonder if he is biding his time for something more to happen between us. He is out of a relationship two months now and I'm very wary of the whole rebound thing but if i'm honest this feels like something that has been brimming for a while (if it is what I think it is). He has told me that I'm one of the funniest girls he knows, and I wasn't sure how to take that but he said to take it as a compliment as few girls are naturally funny. There have been other things he has said that are very flirty too but they are too specific to post here. Also the other day we went out for dinner and he paid for it which was so kind of him and I was not expecting that at all. When out at dinner he asked me if i still liked such and such a person (who i don't at all). Just the whole thing made me wonder. However, he has said that he is staying away from relationships etc for a while and I feel he is still picking himself up from his last brief relationship. He is also the type of guy who loves to meet up with good friends for lunch thugh too and maybe he is naturally a flirt, i really don't know at this stage. Personally, I would not be opposed to something happening between us but I still think he needs time to recover from his last relationship, I also don't want to build up my hopes because there is a strong possibilty that he just considers me a great girlfriend. Just wondering what other ppl would read form this situation?

Adamisconfused

I haven’t read anything to give me an idea that he really likes you in anyway other than a friend. If he does, then I don’t think you’ll be left in any doubt at all. If he’s interested then he’ll want to spend more time with you and his motives will become increasingly clear, but at the moment, you’re reading too much into everything he does.

Also, most men aren’t like women. We don’t need a rebound to make us know we’re still desired by the opposite sex. If this man does like you then he will have had these feelings for a long time. They don’t just appear out of nowhere. Wait and see.

By the way, you sound as if you have some deep feelings for him. He may not know you feel this way and mightn’t want to ruin your friendship. If you so desire, you can wait a while and start giving him some signals that you’re interested in him.

VaioCruiser

Many relationships start as friendships.

But you have not said if YOU want something to happen ! Do you ?

I would not be opposed to something happening between us

. . . . is a pretty luke warm statement.

If you DO want something to happen, then you have to decide whether you want to risk damaging the friendship by asking him if he fancies dating you. Its that simple.

You could try to get a mutual friend to try to suss it out, without cocking it up that is.

My own personal opinion is don't do anything, unless and until you know what it is YOU want. Why screw things up without even knowing what is it you want.

All the best.

LegacyUser

im in de same situation cept it was me out of the relationship not him. we kissed and now still friends think we're better off dat way. reality is i'd love to be with him but i jus dunno if he feels de same. it'll happen if its meant to and if its not well i'm sure you can find someone who will make it 100% clear they're interested. well dats wat im hopin good luck xx