How to approach the guy!

LegacyUser

Ok so here is the dilema..

Im out a relathionship, on my way up to feel better and suddenly noticed a guy on my way to work in the morning who is absolutely gorgeous!

Now, if we were in a bar or pub i wouldnt have an issue going up and say something, im happy go lucky type of girl, im cute and never push anyone away, im no snob or anything, although I havent went up to guy i usually smile or something, im still shy..anyway!

SO, I thought last week what the hell do i have to lose, i will just go up to him ( mind you im driving and see him when i pick up a work mate when im parked on the side of the road by his work)

But I saw him coming, obviously he may have been a bit late for work, close to 9, I was all pumped up, i was like "im doing it!", had no idea what exactly i would say but when he went by I totally froze!!! i got seriously shy like an idiot!!!

I pull down my window and asked a stupid random question like "excuse me, are you from Clontarf or something? sorry but you look familiar"..Damn it!, i could of seriously slap myself on this one, i was all ready, but there i totally went for a stupid thing to say..
My original plan was to be honest and say, "hi my name is ... i have seen you a few times in the morning thought i would give you my number if you wanted to have drinks sometimes .." obviously, i would need to make sure he hasnt have a gf of course thats a tricky one to find out from a stranger too!


I fancy him and it makes me nervous, as i havent fancy anyone for a while since my breakup.


Any tip from anyone at this point would be appreciate, now i made a slight contact im scared its gonna look weird talking to him again...any clues!?

thank you!!

Cabaal

Just as him as you planned, why you may ask?

Well if you don;t there;s always the what if situation,

if he has a gf so what, there's nothing better then being asked out as its a great compliment; so worse come to worse he says he has a gf/wife and he carrys on with his day with a spring in his step after your great compliment.

While it may suck that you won't get a date out of it atleast you won't be sitting at home that evening woundering what if

If he doesn't have a gf/wife or whatever then you'll likely get a date out of it at some pioint

Kimia

I don't think asking him was he from Clontarf was actually that bad tbh! Fair play, at least you said something.

I've been there I tell you. I will never forget trying to ask a guy out and I went beet red and mumbled something unintelligible and he just looked at me strangely and didn't answer and then made some excuse and legged it. In hindsight he wasn't interested but I was shamed for ages afterwards.

Still though, better to try and fail than not try and always wonder!

What did he say when you asked him was he from Clontarf? Was he friendly, did he interact?

VaioCruiser

I think the best thing is simply to share a smile with him each morning for a while... and then get him into conversation...

Nothingcompares

sell your car. buy a van. stick a mattress in the back. pull over and drag him inside. job done. case closed. next.

Barracudaincork

I think asking him if he was from Clontarf was a brilliant move! Why? Well now he doesnt think you spoke to him cause he though he was hot, he thinks you have mistaken him for someone else. This now means he has seen you, and its is at the same position you are in. You both are aware of each other, but have no idea if the other is interested or single kinda thing.

Next time smile, acknowledge him or if the timing is right say something more even something like "hello clontarf guy" and give him a flirty smile etc.

Suss things out for awhile if you feel you cant just go up to him and say something.

Also if you are going to speak to him, get out of the car, make out your sorting something out in the boot and close it as he approachs so you can talk to him face to face.

Good luck

LegacyUser

Thanks Nothingcompares, radical tip you gave me!;)

So last time i saw him and asked him my random question, mind you, i dont even know clontarf!!, anyway, he genuinly bend over to my car window but then after answering that he wasnt from clontarf, he stood up and clearly was i think running a bit late for work as it was 9 and i didnt want to seem desperate and say "heres my number, call me!" as it might, at that moment, put it too much on the spot!!. I could see tho that before getting into his building he turned around;)!

Anyway, im determined to talk to him, like previously said nothing to lose and if anything, you guys said he will spend his day flattered, which is nice to think of!

I dont see him everyday btw, only one morning a week which is the day i pick up my friend.

so i have few days to think of something not totally retarded to say. I will smile thats for sure, but probably out of embarrassment and nervousness!!!

obviously i cant ask him right of the bet, "hey, do you have a gf? cos if not his my number";) so pretty much if i give it to him it will be totally up in the air if he does have one or if hes a good guy, wouldnt want a guy who has a gf but feels so flattered that he would go thinking why not some fun!

Thanks for opinion and advice!! keep them coming i have til weds to "grow balls"!!

LegacyUser

Woo great idea the get out of the car thing..thx;)

Im nervous as hell, now im feeling what guys always talk bout the fear or rejection being a big deal to not approach girls!!

i will build some nerves, little of them, before weds, im in no rush to make this fast, so the idea of just smile to him is good idea, and its not like i see him everyday anyway so i wont look like a stalker either.

i have to mentioned, when he said he wasnt from clontarf, if that is what i actually asked of course;) as he was leaving i said, "sorry you just look familiar", he replied ..
"no problem"...im sure he could see i was nervous..i was smiling but boy! i cant believe i manage to speak english ! (mind you im not from here, im american)


SO yes, will see, i sure will keep you updated!;)

willy wonka

OP To be honest I think asking him out might be a bit too much. I've talked about this with friends and the general consensus is it's a bit weird/desperate if it's a stranger.
I applaud your bravery but just offering an opinion.

What you could do is, but ONLY if your friend is in the car with you, is offer him a lift to work maybe? You seem like a friendly person and you would probably acknowledge him when you next see him and just ask him would he like a lift (but ONLY when your friend is there - safety first!) and it would be the perfect opportunity to ask him further questions and get to know him and suss him out a bit.
You never know it could work out as a regular thing and then it wouldnt be a big deal to ask him out/invite him to a group work thing.

Great White

why don't you pull up along side him, get out and "pretend" there is something wrong with your car, you could get chatting, and see how how goes from there......................

Adamisconfused

Someone else wrote that it would be weird for you to ask him out.
Yes; it’s unusual for complete strangers to ask each other out in this country. However, that does not make it weird. There is no logical reason why you or anyone else isn’t allowed to talk to someone you find attractive.

It will get weird if you don’t ask him out soon. You can't just find excuses for the next few weeks to get chatting to him.
Don’t beat around the bush with silly chit-chat; get to the point quickly and I’m sure he’ll be flattered. He certainly won’t think of you in any bad way. It’s worth a try.

VaioCruiser

Hi OP...

Please don't ask him if he wants a lift.... no disrespect to the poster.

If you smile a few days in a row . . . then you are NOT s stranger

now im feeling what guys always talk bout the fear or rejection being a big deal to not approach girls!!

YESSSS ...

kerplunk86

Hi OP, you seem like a very confident woman. Becase of this, you could just go for it and ask him if he would like to go for a drink like you suggested. You have already broken the ice so you aren't a total stranger.

To echo what Adamisconfused said above: Most guys I know would love to have someone ask them out randomly! Definitely would find it very flattering. And even if he says no/has a girlfriend you will have gotten over being nervous so mightn't be so unsure in the future! Best of luck, let everyone know how it goes!

LegacyUser

Hi dear advisors!!;)

So tomrrow morning is the big day!

I want to thank you guys all for your point of view/comment/advice...i have no plan whatsoever about what i will say if i manage to get words of my mouth that is! fingers crossed he doesnt have colleagues walking with him cos that would be the killer and push it to next weds! argh!!

My guy friends as well as you have told me that if anything, he will be flattered all day about some random girl asking him out/gave her number out of the blue.
my only worry would be that its the morning on the way to work and lets face it, not many of us are in the best mood on the way to work at 9am!!

Anyway, im told im really cute, even hot if i make the effort (please appologies, didnt mean to sound pretentious right there;)) justrying to show im not ugly betty. i know looks dont mean anything but in that particular case well i would think beign pretty would help!

Oh well, fingers crossed hes not in a bad mood, have a gf or brush me off!!!

Wish me luck and i will update you guys later!!

Any last min. advice are welcome!

NickNolte

Unregistered wrote: »

I totally froze!!! i got seriously shy like an idiot!!!

I pull down my window and asked a stupid random question like "excuse me, are you from Clontarf or something? sorry but you look familiar"..Damn it!, i could of seriously slap myself on this one, i was all ready, but there i totally went for a stupid thing to say..

That's just too funny, sorry. In a cute way though; I'm laughing with you... not at you!

In fairness though, fair play to you. Most open-minded guys would be flattered by that. I certainly would.

OP To be honest I think asking him out might be a bit too much. I've talked about this with friends and the general consensus is it's a bit weird/desperate if it's a stranger.

No. I'm sorry. This is the problem with Irish society today. What the hell is wrong with approaching someone you fancy and asking them out? Absolutely nothing is what. We're one of the most socially insecure, backward socities on earth. It's beyond embarrassing. If you want to be another one of these people in Ireland who ends up marrying some person that lives in the same town as you, one of your workmates or one of the people inside your cliquey social circle then go for it.

Fair play to you, OP, for taking the risk. You're a modern thinker and a pioneer for dragging this retarded society out of it's cliquey, incestuous, in-bred mindset. More power to you.

willy wonka

Good luck OP

Looking forward to any updates
Positive thoughts for tomorrow

LegacyUser

ARGHHHHH

Ok so i said i would my dearest advisors updated so here it is....didnt see him today!!!!!!!!!!!

Damn it, I was looking good, not mentally ready but hey, cant blame me for this as it would be my first time asking a guy out right out of the street!

Having say that, being in Ireland, you would think pub would be open at half 8 in the morning!!! suddenly, early morning drinks wouldnt have sound so bad after all!;)

Anyway, will try on Friday as i am picking up my work mate again but after that if i dont it wil be weds..;(

Nick Nolte I have to thank you, nicely said, if anything i brought a smile on someone face today!...funny actually as i posted somewhere, 35s single etc.. this weekend and where you had posted as well few weeks ago..not much love there for you but dont worry plenty here!!
you gave a good point about Ireland being backward society ...anyway, off suject!! im not from here so im doing it MY WAY! nothing to lose but my proud and ego, both priceless but im endlessly optimistic.

Well I will again keep you updated, i hope Friday i can see him and finally properly embarrassed myself and buitl some nerves to chat him up!!

Again, any suggestions on how to approach him would be nice!!

LegacyUser

Btw Willy Wonka!

I wouldnt have mind one bit if you had laugh "at me"...god knows I AM laughing at myself already!!;)
But at this point i got pumped by so much encouragement from everyone around me that no way im backing out damn it!

You rock Willy!

LegacyUser

Why don't you 'pretend' to pick your friend up tomorrow? Is there not a shop nearby you can stop at to get a morning paper or something?

Just park up, stand there 'talking' on your phone and if you spot him, give him your best smile and get chatting!

It is so exciting, I remember the days I used to doll myself up in case I saw my object of desire! 3 years on, he is mine!

LauraLoo

Hi OP

after reading down this post im so excited for you!

You know what- who cares if he says he cant cos of girlf/gay whatever- i think that even if he says no you'll be riveted by the whole experience. you'll have adrenalin pumping everywhere and by god could you imagine you guys ended up together?? it' d be like sleepless in seattle for all of us waiting to hear the updates!!!

Nick Nolte couldnt have put it any better!

I approaced a stranger before in a coffee house and we had a great chat but it turned out he was part of some religious organisation so i did a moonwalk but at the same time for me it was a confidence boost as i did something that many people would be too afraid to do and it showed me my own personal capabilities. If i hadnt already found my man i would be doing the same as you!

Go for it!!!!

squonk

You're an inspiration unregistered guest! Good on ya! Your posts are such a change from the usual. don't know what's wrong with this country but we need more like you. He's a lucky guy! I REALLY hope it all works out and will keep my eyes peeled on this thread. Go GIRL!!!!!

LegacyUser

Hi my dearest advisors!!!!

Seriously, you all rock!!

I know, relationships issues shouldnt always been bad stuff, and i can see everyone is having issues in this country but GOD how bout spontaneality! or however you spell it;)

Im raging right now i didnt get to see him this morning, i was so nervous for the past few days and now back to nervousness land!

I will try tomorrow, not sure if i can but will see and hopefully i wont losr my cool and do a moonwalk a la LauraLoo!!

Funny as i dont even know the guy, its purely byt the looks at this point, i think this guy is just gorgeous and was ready to just say that to be honest!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This morning i was only hoping he wasnt gonna walk byt with colleagues and thought ok, if hes alone i go for the kill!

Squonk thanks for the compliment, hope all the positive will pay off!!! lets bring some optimisim in this forum with a good/fun story!!

Fun is back!;)

LegacyUser

hey just after coming along this thread and OMG, fair play to you girl,,, that guy is going to be so flattered,,, cant wait to hear how you get on,,

LegacyUser

Hey, don't let fear cloud what is a very exciting time!

Really hope you manage to get it done tomorrow, reminds me of when I met my fiancé, I felt sick every morning because I had to work with him lol! Luckily he made the move but you are a very brave woman and you deserve it!

Fingers crossed! x

DancingQueen:)

Best of luck :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

OH GOD !!

Yeah well i manage to go there this morning, it was a strech i tell you that much AND got late for work...all for what!?

Didnt see him today either!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

this is driving me mental!! now i cant go tomorrow so it leaves again next weds..;(

i think 2 morning in the row without seeing him going to work probably means his off work or went early/later...fingers crossed he didnt leave the job!!!

SO again, the little saga continue!

I can tell you tho, after all the encouragement i got from friends and you guys, i felt like i was on the rampage, on a high!! like i couldnt let anyone down and no matter what an idiot i would make of myself i was thinking..."im gonna talk to this guy DAMN IT"

So, im keeping my optimisim to the max, all pumped up until next week when all the nervousness is gonna come back in and lets hope my blondless doesnt make me say the stupiest thing on the planet!!


Again, any suggestions of opening line beside "i think you are just dashing...can i give you my number" !! well thats the line i was going for..although in theory....in real life....mmm not so sure i will grow balls that big (figure of speech obviously!)

wishing luck to myself
thanks for all the encouragement !!!!

IceICEbaby

lol

This thread is beyond cute
Good luck!

xxxxxx

Sephiroth_dude

Heres what you do:

When you see him tomorrow,get out of your car,walk up to him,grab him by the head and kiss him (a nice passionate one ) give him your number,and walk away.if he calls you he calls you and if does'nt well then thats his loss .best of luck.

thriller

You will be rewarded! You'll make his day, week and month by giving him your number/asking him out!

Good luck with it

smartaform

This is turning out to be the event of the year!!!

I totally agree with Sephiroth _dude, take the initative and do it - when he shows up that is...
If you cant do that, just say straight out - 'I've seen you all the time and i'd like to have a drink with you' and take it from there, who would pass up that (if they were single!!)

Good Luck!!

willy wonka

I am glued to this thread! It's a real-life romance serial!
Good luck OP and keep up the optimism.

Also be on your guard - you may actually bump into him somewhere other than on the way to work, like out at the weekend or if you're going to the shop. At least if you're expecting this you won't be taken aback and will still be able to chat to him

LegacyUser

You guys are awesome! so much support i swear im soooo pumped up!

Oh trust me Willy Wonka! I have been looking my best anytime i leave my place since, even looking hot taking the garbage out for christ sake!! never know you re right!..;)

It better take my number and freaking call me when i finally meet him i tell you that much!!

Anyway, cant wait for wednesday now!!

thebiggestjim

YOU GO GIRL!!

Ill be keeping an eye on this thread for a happy ending

[Jackass]

Seriously man, if a girl asked me out on the street, I'd 100% say yes - even if she was a total ming bag - just for having the balls to ask.

willy wonka

[Jackass] wrote: »

a total ming bag

lmao

LegacyUser

I did it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

woohooo!

Gee, I couldnt wait for weds, as you know its the only day I could manage to see him, and as I was waiting for my work mate in my car on the side of the road I realized it was 9am and I thought, just great! Im not gonna see him ...again!!!!
Felt sad, and suddenly, who did I see coming up the street...him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my god, my heart was going 90 miles an hr, I wasnt too nervous before surprisingly but when I saw him iwas like F*** what the hell am I gonna say!! i know I was doing it damn it but didnt know how to talk anymore!!

SO, he passd by my car, I rolled down my window cos lets face it, standing outside in my heels there is no wayyyy i would of stand..too nervous!
SO anyway, told him, again, "Im sure I have seen you somewhere!" ..for god sake woman, could I have just said something intelligent for once!!;)
I told him that I have seen him a few times in the morning in that I have never done anything like this ..and asked him if I could give him my number!!! yep, straight up!
NOW, he said yes right away, no hesitation, so thats nice;) he grabbed his mobile phone and asked me to say my number then asked me my name, woohoo;) then I asked his of course!

BUT now I relalized I didnt actually "asked him out" really...so my question to you is, isnt it obvious that I was asking him out by asking him if I could give him my number?!!
He was running late as it was just past 9am again so he took my number then we exchange names and then he left....so naturally I didnt want to hold him on too long.
And I was so nervous anyway i would of start speaking Spanish for all I know.
(note- I do not speak a word of spanish!;))

SO your opinion on his would be nice!!!! for the guys out there, does it sound a good thing or he could of take my number regardless??...I think the fact he took his phone out and even put my name in it sounds good...but then again, its my opinion, ballsy optimistic little me!!


I obviously dont have his number so its up to him to contact me now, kinda crossing fingers he will obviously. Probabl nice if he text cos it would make it easy to break the ice so do speak;)


Well thanks for support and opinion now would be nice again!!!!

LegacyUser

Oh my god you brave thing!! I have a massive grin on my face and it isn't even me! lol

He sounds very keen indeed, to take your number right away. He could have mumbled some excuse and dashed off but he didn't! I am sure he knows why you gave him your number so don't worry.

Lets hope he gets in touch soon!

x

LegacyUser

Oh well no advice needed anymore boardies...

he texted me already, so naturally I got excited!!

He was wondering from where i thought i knew him...da! so by text it was much easier so i told him it was easier by text for me to do this and that I just thought he was really handsome to be honest.
He replied he was flattered and that i was really good looking too...but he has a girlfriend!;(

Boohooooo so, can this guy be any more cute! hes even honest to say he has one!
could of totally be a player!

Now he is texting me tho, askinh where im from and stuff...mmmm does it sound weird for me to chat with him like that!?

should i be careful!

Gee, i must have seriously made his day!!!

LegacyUser

Naughty man for taking your number when he has a gf! He got your hopes up and also betrayed his gf.

At least you know you have the balls to do it again!

Otis Driftwood

Hmmm,some random girl asks me for my number and I give it out with no hesitation despite the fact I have a GF and then start texting her.

I dunno about that.

Edit:sorry it didnt work out as you would have liked OP but you have my utmost respect for having the balls to ask him.Good for you.I hope it wont put you off asking a guy for his number again.

LegacyUser

OP well done I enjoyed reading all that.

Very brave and I would love if a cute guy asked me out sober like that!

I did something similar in a pub recently. It was early enough on a work night so everyone was just having a quiet drink. I noticed a guy I thought looked like Seth Rogan who I love, and I was saying to my mates, I bet he is funny too. When I came back from the loo he was sitting at our table, my mates had called him and his mates over under the pretence of a game or something. Anyway he WAS really funny!i knew it!But he left after a few mins.

I was saying to everyone how much I liked him and I had to do something. And my whole table were on Seth Rogan alert, anytime they saw him walk by they would prompt me to go up to him. So after I while I half ran/was pushed after him when he was on his way to the loo. I just sort of popped up from behind him, trying to look all breesy and was like
"hi...eh, hows it going?...I just wanted to say I think your really funny, and was wondering if perhaps sometime, you would maybe want to go for a drink" just like that but spoken quite fast and probably not the best line.

He smiled and was like "oh no.." held up his wedding ring. Doh! Then he said, "but if I wasnt we would be scoring right now" (which I thought was a bit cheeky to say). And then I relaxed as it was done and dusted and made some jokes and was about to go, he stopped and looked at me then said "should we swap numbers?" and I was appalled I said "NO Seth!" (except I didnt call him Seth). And he was like, "yeah sorry" and kissed the top of my head like I was a child. He kept looking over then for the rest of the night came out to say bye when I left. I think he felt a bit sorry for me.


I felt great for asking him as I never do that sort of thing. Next time Ill look out for a ring first though!

squonk

Well done! I was dying to know how this was gonna work out! Good on you! It's brilliant that you carried it through like that! Not sure about him texting back like that though. Sounds a bit suspect. Admittedly he probably just wants to find out about you because he's curious and lets face it, this sort of thing doesn't happen to us guys every day. It does seem a bit out of order though given he's got a gf already. Not very fair on his gf I think, but a few are grand.

SarahSassy

Well done to you Miss....

He sounds like a bit of a chancer so i'd let him off now seeing as he has a gf.

Adamisconfused

Good on you, OP. You’re a shining example to the rest of the ladies.:)

Anyway, he has a girlfriend. It’s up to you, but it’s probably best not to meet the guy again.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

Boohooooo so, can this guy be any more cute! hes even honest to say he has one!
could of totally be a player!

Now he is texting me tho, askinh where im from and stuff...mmmm does it sound weird for me to chat with him like that!?

should i be careful!

Gee, i must have seriously made his day!!!

You did a great job OP. It's not that hard is it :-) Nothing ventured nothing gained. Even if it is a bit of a downer. On the other hand you are now equipped for the next time

I think you are right to be cautious now and back off. Despite the over reaction by others, there are many kinds of GF. He could be dating for the last two weeks on a very relaxed basis or he could be going steady for the last five years !! Who the heck knows.

I would text him that you are disappointed he has a GF, and that if his status changes any time soon, to drop you a note. END OF CONTACT. Don't get into regular little meaningless texts because it is a hug temptation for ANY guy or girl to keep in contact in this kind of flattering situation.

That puts you in the clear and let's him know exactly where he stands.

All the best !

Eve_Dublin

VaioCruiser wrote: »

You did a great job OP. It's not that hard is it :-) Nothing ventured nothing gained. Even if it is a bit of a downer. On the other hand you are now equipped for the next time

I think you are right to be cautious now and back off. Despite the over reaction by others, there are many kinds of GF. He could be dating for the last two weeks on a very relaxed basis or he could be going steady for the last five years !! Who the heck knows.

I would text him that you are disappointed he has a GF, and that if his status changes any time soon, to drop you a note. END OF CONTACT. Don't get into regular little meaningless texts because it is a hug temptation for ANY guy or girl to keep in contact in this kind of flattering situation.

That puts you in the clear and let's him know exactly where he stands.

All the best !

Nah, I don't think anyone overeacted here..if someone says they'd a girlfriend, I'd presume it was a GIRLFRIEND girlfriend and wouldn't speculate otherwise BUT I would agree with the suggestion of the cheeky text because you could be right, it might not be a serious girlfriend or he might've been lying.

Sometimes if I'm caught off guard and I'm asked out by a sober man (not in this country, I'm afraid....), I tell them I've a boyfriend because it's the first thing that comes into my head and I wouldn't be used to a man being so forward so I'd stick my guard up but after that when I've a bit of time to think about it that perhaps the man and his intentions were genuine and actually, he was a quite a looker...but by that stage it's too late and i'm kicking myself. Maybe this is the case with this guy? He immediately put up his defences in an unfamiliar situation?

Who knows but I would take Vaio's advice and send that cheeky text. If he's in a relationship and he's a good guy, he won't do anything but if he likes you and your gutsy ways...he might reconsider his first answer.....or maybe I'm looking for more drama and you should ignore me

Fair play anyway OP! That took some balls.

Sephiroth_dude

well done op,least he was honest with you anyway ,I wish I had your confidence to approach a girl I liked on the street .

LegacyUser

ok so me again, thx you guys for being concern!!

Well no panic, funny, we ended up emailing all day pretty much, i guess its the "after chock" for him of having a girl asking him out at of the blue!!

I got more stuff, he does have a gf, for few years and i told him i was really appreciating his honestly to what he said he had no reason to lie and hes not a pimp. (mention he also has a kid;(, so double boohoo!)

He then said he would have few friends who would probably would love to know me!!!

so im guessing the whole day emailing was like someone said previous post, out of curiosity cos by the end of the day he said he was still in chocked cos it never happened to him and that he didnt think he was that good looking!

Anyway, yes, he is curious and imsure thats is why we emailed all day, he told again in the last email how chocked he was still. hewas asking so many questions about me!!

Now he has shown no sign of doign the dirt if you know what i mean, i think he genuinly wants to hook me up with his friends as he said they are just as cool as him.

In the other hand, he did said that if he hadnt had a girlfriend he would of love to aceept my "asking him out" but ...anyway, i think in his situatio i would of done the same or sa ythe same if he cute guys would of ask me out.
i think this morning he was too much in chocked and late for work thats why he took my number...beside i did said, 2 times, that i thought i knew him so it probably got him wondering..

Anyway, yes!! fair play im excited i did it!! sucks he has a gf, and a kid on top of it, at mid 20s its loads of responsability but im older than him, it seems i cant meet anyone older for god sake!!!

Anyway, will keep updated on this and im sure i will have more question as ...do i meet his friends now!!????

willy wonka

Well done OP. Pity it didn't work out as you wanted but at least your curiosity has been put to rest.

Just wondering is chocked = shocked?

LegacyUser

oops!! yes it is willy! ...im in "shocked" too I guess!

thanks for the support!!!

Adamisconfused

If you want to meet up with one of his friends then there is no harm in it as long as you can live with being around and not having the “gorgeous” guy;). Obviously, you shouldn’t just randomly arrange to meet up with them on your own.
You’re in uncharted waters as far as I’m concerned. I never got a chance of going out with the friends of girls who turned me down.:(