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New girl at work

  • 04-07-2009 2:57am
    #1
    linky101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi Guys,

    seeing a girl for over 2 years, shes great, great looking nice, does everything for me.I started a new job in telesales in february. Met this new girl in work, at first i thought she was gorgeous but nothing more, then after that ive gotten slowly more attracted to her, sometimes i think she may feel the same but unlikely to be honest. my gf is great but i feel so guilty about feeling like this, im not a bad guy. i just cant help feeling like this. i havent been this attracted/excited about a girl since i was sixteen. head is in tatters about it. any advice? cheers


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  • #2
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    You have a crush. As long as you dont act on it there wont be a problem.


  • #3
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    Agreed. Crushes are harmless. Acting on them when you're attached is silly. Don't worry about it OP, happens to everyone once in a while.


  • #4
    linky101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭linky101


    I kind of knew already its just a crush, but for it to be happening this long? i fell bad for thinking about her, but i'm always having lunch with her at work, sometimes heading out, its wrecking my head.


  • #5
    happyfriday
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 390 ✭✭happyfriday


    We all have crush's and they can go on longer than just a week or two, the main thing is not to act on it, maybe you should try to avoid the tempatation, having lunch or heading out for drinks with this girl in work might not be such a good idea. Also remember that age old saying that the grass is always greener on the other side. For now you have done nothing wrong....


  • #6
    scrubber72
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,215 ✭✭✭scrubber72


    ah linky we are 2 in the same. I have been with my gf for just over 2 years and love her to bits now this girl at work is starting to get into my head and it even has gotten to the stage were i think about her when havin sex with my present gf. I am engaged and so is the girl at work and know that if i ever tried anything and got knocked back or not we both would be wrecking what we have with our own partners and with eachother. I am aware the attraction is mutual but is it worth it:confused:
    Advice hmmm dont do anything unless you want to ruin what you have besides you will never get away with it. karma and all


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  • #7
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    The thing to keep in mind is you are spending 8+ hrs a day 5 days a week with this girl.
    Is it any wonder you find yourself getting attracted to her?
    We all put on different faces for work - you know best behaviour, laughs etc. You don't have to worry about bills etc.

    Thing to keep in mind is that this more than likely is just a crush. Try to spend less time with her though. Try to cut down on the lunches out etc.

    Living with such temptation is not a good idea - given the right circumstances - night out with work - etc - you might just be tempted to give in. Don't.

    If you really do love the girl you are with do your best to put your work mate out of your mind. If you are unsure though - then maybe cut your girlfriend loose so that she can find someone else who will treat her right.


  • #8
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    linky101 wrote: »
    Hi Guys,

    seeing a girl for over 2 years, shes great, great looking nice, does everything for me.I started a new job in telesales in february. Met this new girl in work, at first i thought she was gorgeous but nothing more, then after that ive gotten slowly more attracted to her, sometimes i think she may feel the same but unlikely to be honest. my gf is great but i feel so guilty about feeling like this, im not a bad guy. i just cant help feeling like this. i havent been this attracted/excited about a girl since i was sixteen. head is in tatters about it. any advice? cheers

    Guilty about what ? liking someone else a bit ? what is so wrong about that ? If it continues you will be in a difficult situation however. At what point will you feel you want to test if she feels like you .... compared with how you feel about the GF. It's a difficult one. You are not married, but you have a certain commitment.
    I guess it depends on how you feel about the GF, and how your feelings develop about this girl in work and if it becomes mutual.

    I really think you should banish this guilt thing. It is not helping you make the best decisions. Just ease forward and remember to treat people how you would like to be treated.

    All the best.


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